Author caseinpoint Posted September 27, 2011 Author Posted September 27, 2011 Well he cant ask you all the questions at once, it would sound like an interrogation. He has to tick off his boxes first, and possibly ask follow up questions at another time to avoid asking too many questions at once. Gotta let the conversation flow, and let the questions get answered during that conversation. Asking too many qualifying questions makes the conversation seemed forced. So he is doing it right. If you want to follow up with further facts about yourself after he asks a question, you should offer up the info instead of waiting for him to ask, and get it out the way. That could keep the conversation flowing more naturally than just fielding questions. You might even have funny stories to add to the answers, and then flip a new question back on him. What you said makes sense. I don't always offer the information though because it makes me feel like I'm trying to dominate the conversation and unlike many others, I dislike to always talk about myself. Also I've been "conditioned" to believe that when someone asks questions, it shows they're interested. Not just questions. I actually like follow up questions because that's my way of telling whether they've been listening and interested to know more.
Eddie Edirol Posted September 28, 2011 Posted September 28, 2011 What you said makes sense. I don't always offer the information though because it makes me feel like I'm trying to dominate the conversation and unlike many others, I dislike to always talk about myself. Also I've been "conditioned" to believe that when someone asks questions, it shows they're interested. Not just questions. I actually like follow up questions because that's my way of telling whether they've been listening and interested to know more. problem is, if you just let them ask all the questions, and dont talk about yourself at all, it could look to them like youre not interested. Youre not dominating the conversation if youre having a good give and take. Now if you think you talk too much, and youre afraid of letting him see that, then you should work on sticking to answering the questions and not deviating much from that, but still learn to keep up and not let him dominate it.
counterman Posted September 28, 2011 Posted September 28, 2011 Good pointers, Eddie. I often lead the conversation but I do like it when girls ask about me and is intent on listening. I also like it when they offer information, so it doesn't feel like I am interrogating them. It should really flow, best way to put it. Give and take. Sometimes when I think I've spoken too much, I follow up with a question and let the other person talk. Most of the time its a 50 - 50 share in conversation.
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