mirage12 Posted September 27, 2011 Posted September 27, 2011 My ex and I broke up more than a year ago. It was our third time breaking up, but this was the first girl I ever fell in love with. We dated senior year of college and it worked out that we happened to be going to grad school in the same, different city, so we dated for a little while longer after college as well. In the year since we broke up (supposedly on good terms), I've only seen her a handful of times even though we only live 10 or 15 minutes away in the new city, and we talk every once in a while but usually briefly and without substance. I've been with other girls since her, and even dated one for a month or so. Even though so much time has passed though, I find myself still thinking about her. Even though I know with almost complete certainty that we don't have a future together, sometimes I'll see a picture of her randomly and I'll get kind of sad. I compare every new girl I meet or hang out with to her, and a lot of the time I think I'm not over her, or maybe will never be over her. Do you guys think it's unusual to still be kind of stuck over a year after breaking up? How am I ever supposed to get over her completely?
Lucio Posted September 27, 2011 Posted September 27, 2011 I took 4 years before I went into a new r.s. 8 years before I really loved another person more.
Author mirage12 Posted September 27, 2011 Author Posted September 27, 2011 Wow, that's a very long time for either of those things...I can't even imagine feeling this way for that long
coltsfan1 Posted September 27, 2011 Posted September 27, 2011 mirage- It took me a SOLID year to move forward. I had to make new friends and all. One of the hardest things I have ever had to do, but it has made me a stronger man. It may just have the same affect on you.
DayAfterDay Posted September 27, 2011 Posted September 27, 2011 I just passed my year and a half break-up mark after 3 years of being together. First love. All that. Just like you. It hasn't completely gone away for me either, man. I know how you feel, trust me. Honestly, I actually cried last night for the first time in a while about it. It hasn't gone away...it's changed, yes...but not gone away. It's more or less just become more bearable.
Lucio Posted September 27, 2011 Posted September 27, 2011 Yea it was a very passionate one (love at first sight), And it ended very badly. She basically found someone new n expected me to accept it the moment she reaches the full stop of the sentence. N then there were all the harsh things she said cos she didn't like the fact I went NC. She wants me to accept the betrayal, become her friend again, and hang out tgt, all 3 of us, from day 1. The r.s. started passionately n ended w fireworks too. Every single day what she said rings in my head n replays like a broken record.
Luckless Posted September 28, 2011 Posted September 28, 2011 I was in a LONG relationship w/ my first crush, I met him in kindergarten! Hell, I even married him! I loved him more than the earth and the sky. While dating things were mostly great, it only feel apart WEEKS after we were married. Yep, three weeks after getting married, he was making excuses to fight just so he could leave. I think he got cold feet afterwards! The fighting lasted a while, he'd leave, and comeback. It was a nasty cycle. THEN ta-da! Random chicks started calling him, and everytime, there was some reason why they called him. Which were all BS! He had affairs. I spent plenty of nights crying into my beers. You need to come to terms w/ the relationship that ended. And you can't compare other women to her, it's just unfair to them. If you stop comparing you can focus on the new individual. They may just turn out to be a better fit for you than she was!
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