laotzu Posted September 27, 2011 Posted September 27, 2011 I'm going to try online dating again for a couple of weeks, and see how it goes. Match and OKC. My previous experience on them has been a mixed bag: I tend to get a decent amount of attention, and definitely a good number of dates. I've been out with some pretty attractive girls, and some girls who definitely don't add up in real life. I've also had some situations in which girls will message me first, I'll message them back, and they fizzle out - and that always confuses me. Overall I don't send a lot of messages, and when I do I get a response - but I'd like to know, ideally from an intelligent girl's perspective, how she operates in the OLD world. So, a few short questions. Generally, I'd appreciate honesty and rationalism. 1. If you express interest in a guy (either through a wink, a mutual interest notification, or by rating him highly) do you prefer that he get in contact with you fairly quickly, or is a day or two alright? 2. If you message a guy first, is it fair to say that it's because you've just joined the site, and don't understand how much attention you're going to get? 3. As a man, if I see a picture of a girl that shows off her body (in a non-sleazy or... okay, even a sort of sleazy way) it's probably a turn-on. I'm sorry: it's just true. If I'm a guy who's in very good shape (abs, 200lbs, ~7% body fat) should I definitely find a way to show that off - or just save it for later? I've never posted a "body" picture of myself, but I've heard conflicting things from girls. Is it a situation in which you say it's immature, but secretly, it tips the balance in someone's favor? 4. Do you like it when someone has a fairly long intro with some specific information, or something short and vague (or does it not matter if they're attractive enough)? 5. Do most of your responses to people generally come down to timing? That is to say, will you typically ignore even someone of decent/high quality, if you're juggling too much at the moment? I may post my intros below, just to get a criticism. But I also don't want people to search for me. Generally, I dislike OLD - but I'm having trouble finding a quality match while working 50 - 60 hours a week. My goal is definitely a LTR with the right person. I ignore "hot" every time if she can't spell correctly, smokes, or in general just sounds vapid.
january2011 Posted September 27, 2011 Posted September 27, 2011 1. Fairly quickly or next day. 2. Not necessarily. 3. Full clothing preferred. Almost anything else suggests short-term/casual - not something I'd be looking for. 4. Fairly long intro with specific info to show effort, level of literacy, personality and humour. 5. I don't like to block or ignore unless they've been abusive, overly suggestive or spamming me.
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