AmericanHoney Posted September 27, 2011 Posted September 27, 2011 I've been seeing this guy for 3 months now and we haven't broken up but lately he's been distant. We play WOW together ( That's how we met) and lately he hasn't been playing with me. I find out he's still playing WOW but not with me:( Last week he texted me saying he wondered if I wanted to go out to eat I said sure sounds good. I get a text an hr later saying he has car problems and I said okay and then he texts me 3 hrs later saying sweetie won't be able to make it after all I say ok. I text him Saturday wanting to know if he wants to grab a coffee and he says no I am low on funds. I say okay I am little hurt but whatever.... Sunday is our normal night to play WOW together and he says he doesn't want to play tonight but I find out from my friend who also plays WOW telling me he is still playing just not with me. So I am hurt:( If he wants to break-up with me why won't he do it?? I get this feeling that if he isn't playing WOW with me something must be wrong. I'd ask him but of course he always skirts around the issue saying oh I am tired or I don't feel like playing WOW which is a lie obviously because he is still playing just not with me. By the way WOW is World of Worldcraft
Diogenes Posted September 27, 2011 Posted September 27, 2011 You'd be best to quite playing WOW, the game has a history of causing broken relationships and is terribly addictive . Thousands have walked away from long term relationships, either because one spouse can no longer stand their mate playing a game for 30-40 hours a week and ignoring their family, or the playing spouse gets tired of being told to quite the game and leaves for some Guildie 1000 miles away they've never met so they can continue to play. I wish to hell I'd never let that game in the door....
Author AmericanHoney Posted September 27, 2011 Author Posted September 27, 2011 I just like playing with him and that is how we met so when he doesn't play with me I don't play. I am just hurt he is sneaking behind my back lying and saying he isn't playing when he totally is and I said I saw you online and he said no sweetie I wasn't online. If you do not want to play with me anymore fine but do not lie about it and say I am not online. He is still on my facebook so he totally doesn't hate my guts just yet and I check his wall all the time to see if he posts anything and if he adds any woman and he hasn't posted on his facebook since august. So I just don't know:( I know I shouldn't be spying but when he is sneaky and distant I have to.
Trolly Posted September 27, 2011 Posted September 27, 2011 He sounds like a bum. Kick him to the curb. There's gotta be thousand of WoW addicts that would burn their pc to take a girl out. Him being the exception doesn't make him special.
KathyM Posted September 27, 2011 Posted September 27, 2011 I've been seeing this guy for 3 months now and we haven't broken up but lately he's been distant. We play WOW together ( That's how we met) and lately he hasn't been playing with me. I find out he's still playing WOW but not with me:( Last week he texted me saying he wondered if I wanted to go out to eat I said sure sounds good. I get a text an hr later saying he has car problems and I said okay and then he texts me 3 hrs later saying sweetie won't be able to make it after all I say ok. I text him Saturday wanting to know if he wants to grab a coffee and he says no I am low on funds. I say okay I am little hurt but whatever.... Sunday is our normal night to play WOW together and he says he doesn't want to play tonight but I find out from my friend who also plays WOW telling me he is still playing just not with me. So I am hurt:( If he wants to break-up with me why won't he do it?? I get this feeling that if he isn't playing WOW with me something must be wrong. I'd ask him but of course he always skirts around the issue saying oh I am tired or I don't feel like playing WOW which is a lie obviously because he is still playing just not with me. By the way WOW is World of Worldcraft I think it's kind of hard to build a relationship with someone who is a heavy gamer, because his focus and interest is in gaming and not developing relationships in the real world. If he's found people who are better at the game, he'll want to play with them instead. I'd consider that kind of relationship temporary, and not put too much stock in it. If you want a real relationship, look for it in the real world where you can interact in person and get to know a person IRL and not through a game.
Author AmericanHoney Posted September 27, 2011 Author Posted September 27, 2011 He has a life besides WOW he plays Wow every couple of days.We also play chess with friends on our phones and he used to play all the time and it says he plays but again not with me. He only goes out with me when he wants to plays wow and chess with me when he wants to so after reading threads I've come to thE conclusion he's EU
Diogenes Posted September 27, 2011 Posted September 27, 2011 I think it's kind of hard to build a relationship with someone who is a heavy gamer, because his focus and interest is in gaming and not developing relationships in the real world. If he's found people who are better at the game, he'll want to play with them instead. I'd consider that kind of relationship temporary, and not put too much stock in it. If you want a real relationship, look for it in the real world where you can interact in person and get to know a person IRL and not through a game. From here on in I will never have a relationship with a Gamer who plays games like WOW. It's a real eye opener to see all these forums for WOW Widows" and "Wow Addiction" where spouses/mates who have been married ten to 20 years talk of the spouses starting acting like teenagers, skipping work, staying up half the night to play this game, the people they play with becoming a form of tribe. In many cases it starts when a spouse who plays starts getting hit on, all this new attention going to their heads while the Hubby/wife who does not play is slaving away to hold house and home together. Emotional affairs start and then escalate to physical ones, it truly is an addiction for many.
Author AmericanHoney Posted September 27, 2011 Author Posted September 27, 2011 The thing he isn't addicted. He plays it casually like on weekends And some weeknights he's hardly addicted. The real problem is he blows me Off when I ask him to play chess or a quick game of wow or ask him To go out and he has an excuse but when he wants to go out I have to Drop everything for him he goes out when he wants calls me when he wants or plays chess or wow when he wants. Like I said he's EU. It just hurts because he wasn't EU when we started dating but now the past month he's been eU and is hot and Cold which I hear is a sign of EU.
Diogenes Posted September 27, 2011 Posted September 27, 2011 This is classic signs of Wow addiction, he's online playing when he say's he isn't. Now he's ditching you to play with someone else who's likely a better player, and possibly is more into the game or her than you. Take it from me, you would be better off finding a man who is not into multiplayer games of this type, there is no "End " to WOW, it sucks people in, sometimes alters their personality to the point you don't recognize them anymore.
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