lonelynyc Posted September 27, 2011 Posted September 27, 2011 I have been spouting off about my story so much, I won't repeat it in full here. Let me just say, my ex expressed feelings for me within the past few weeks yet she's already throwing herself back out there looking for someone else. Every time I log into LS I feel conflicted. The rational part of me knows that this is as good an outlet as any to just get the stuff I'm going through off my chest. The irrational part tells me that I'm a loser, dwelling on an online forum while my ex is out there living her life. Boy is that a STUPID notion (the latter idea). Thinking back to what my ex has told me recently in the email complaining about the new guy rejecting her and her complaints about loneliness, she's looking to find happiness she can't attain from within in another person. He's not out there. Nobody is going to be able to fill that void in her soul. I wasn't able to, and nobody will. Her insecurities, all that emptiness--she has to right that before she'll find peace. In my weakened, heartbroken state I'm actually closer to a resolution than she is. I actually pity the individual who becomes her next boyfriend... It might start out fine, but sooner or later her unhappiness will overwhelm even his most earnest efforts. Anybody else fallen for and then been heartbroken by the emotionally damaged? Were they doing us a favor by dropping us?
mike588 Posted September 27, 2011 Posted September 27, 2011 I have been spouting off about my story so much, I won't repeat it in full here. Let me just say, my ex expressed feelings for me within the past few weeks yet she's already throwing herself back out there looking for someone else. Every time I log into LS I feel conflicted. The rational part of me knows that this is as good an outlet as any to just get the stuff I'm going through off my chest. The irrational part tells me that I'm a loser, dwelling on an online forum while my ex is out there living her life. Boy is that a STUPID notion (the latter idea). Thinking back to what my ex has told me recently in the email complaining about the new guy rejecting her and her complaints about loneliness, she's looking to find happiness she can't attain from within in another person. He's not out there. Nobody is going to be able to fill that void in her soul. I wasn't able to, and nobody will. Her insecurities, all that emptiness--she has to right that before she'll find peace. In my weakened, heartbroken state I'm actually closer to a resolution than she is. I actually pity the individual who becomes her next boyfriend... It might start out fine, but sooner or later her unhappiness will overwhelm even his most earnest efforts. Anybody else fallen for and then been heartbroken by the emotionally damaged? Were they doing us a favor by dropping us? That would be me and I hope that she did do me a favor by dumping me,actually I'm finally starting to feel that way. My now ex g/f is pretty much what you described,, her insecurities and always having to have someone in her life bouncing around from one guy to another looking to fill that void.
Way2blue Posted September 27, 2011 Posted September 27, 2011 Yeah, me. I had a six month "relationship" with a guy whose girlfriend passed away less than a year ago. Before she died she told him never to call her again. Before that he was dating a woman for awhile and says they were on a break when the one who died came back into his life. And before her he dated the one who died for two years before she dumped him. I noticed he was still grieving and thought it best to move on because he was giving me mixed signals and was confusing me. He couldn't seem to get past the "we are just dating" phase and was becoming more distant. He agreed he wasn't ready to be in a relationship and we should start at square one as friends. I found out two weeks later that he had gone back with the ex girlfriend! Was he overlapping us? I think so. Girl A, Girl B, back to A, back to B, on to me, back to B. He will never heal because he wont take the time. But a month later I still love the man. So what's wrong with me?
magnus mateo Posted September 27, 2011 Posted September 27, 2011 It seems like you have everything figured out. Your ex has done you a favor. She will never be able to truly love you. Or, anyone else. She will continue to search for love outside herself, instead of searching within herself. It is time to move on with your life.
sleepykitten Posted September 27, 2011 Posted September 27, 2011 Yes my ex did the same, met some girl 3 days after our b/u and 2 weeks later was "in a relationship" with her. He admitted to me he is with her to help him "heal" and that he was filling a hole left by our split even though he broke up with me. This girl is just so yuck too, clingy and always writing on her fb about her amazing bf and everything they do together, even to saying "in bed with my boyfriend" Classy. And no i dont look anymore!!
Luckless Posted September 27, 2011 Posted September 27, 2011 My BF (now ex) started the first year of our relationship unsure if he really wanted a relationship. He was alone for so long and he thought he was happier that way. He broke up with me 3 times! Every few months he got uneasy and we broke up for a day or two before he decided he really did want me. However, in the past 6 months he decided he did want me and he never "went crazy" since. Each time we broke up, my heart sunk, and I was miserable.
TheDovic Posted September 27, 2011 Posted September 27, 2011 YES... My ex had massive self-esteem issues and depression. She gave me very little and I just put up with it like a fool. THEN she dumped me!!! Gutted! I know where you're coming from though dude. I know with all my heart she's no good for me and if we'd stayed together I probably would've been miserable, but if she called at my door right now I'd take her back in a second. Shocking what love does to us!
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