Thehusband2 Posted September 26, 2011 Posted September 26, 2011 Ok, so I have posted here before and am looking for advice again. Only constructive advice please!! My wife, I would say, has good morals, is trustworthy, and lately I would say our relationship is picking up. One thing that really bugs me A LOT is her friend. She, I feel, is trouble. She will leave her husband soon bc their relationship is horrible. She has already cheated on him many times, goes out to bars+clubs all the time, etc... As a person in everyday life she is just not a good person I would say. She is a supportive friend perhaps and fun to be around which is why my wife is friends with her and perhaps it is the reason she has lots of friends. What drives me insane is that she always wants my wife to go with her for drinks, dinner, bars etc... Mostly my wife declines, but sometimes she goes and gets back late and after drinking. I really don't think anything is up (i.e. cheating...yes, I've spied and moreover, I feel I know my wife well). It is just that if you hang with trouble eventually you will find it. Last week we all went out and came to my place....this girl disappered for 45 min and other friends saw her in the car with a guy giving him he*d....seriously, this is not the type of person I want my wife hanging with. Is this reasonable thinking....????? I don't know if I am crazy or how to articulate this to her. I dont necessarily want her to stop being her friend, but just draw the line of going out to bars with her...
Bryanp Posted September 27, 2011 Posted September 27, 2011 I think your analysis is spot on. This woman is absolutely toxic to your marriage. Ask your wife how she would feel if you kept hanging out with a male friend who constantly cheats on his wife and has no problem screwing another woman in a car outside your place after everyone went out for dinner? I bet she would detest it. A person's reputation is based a great deal on the company they keep. My guess is that this friend will constantly talk about her cheating and having fun with your wife when they go out to drinks. She is attempting to plant a seed in your wife's head so she may eventually be a partner in crime. Again if the roles were reversed I am sure your wife would feel threatened and so should you. If you hang enough time with trashy people some of the trash will begin to get stuck on you as well.
Osiris1234 Posted September 27, 2011 Posted September 27, 2011 COMMUNICATION. You need to tell her your absolute feeling about her friend and how your worried her influence might impact your wife. Dont skip out on anything, tell her how you really feel, 100%.
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