vanek26 Posted September 26, 2011 Posted September 26, 2011 So I have been trying out a lot of seduction strategies, such as seeming aloof and uninterested as well as confident and secure. I met a girl last week and put these practices to the test and it went incredibly well. She was blowing up my phone with compliments afterwards. Instead of returning the favor, I just shrugged most of it off. And of course, it made her want me even more. So we had a date planned for this evening. Dinner and then we were going to go out after. Everything seemed to be a go until about an hour before the date, she texted me saying , "I dont want to be an ass. I feel awful because I never bail and you seem really great. Like this has nothing to do with you. But I'm just in a horrible mood and idk if I feel like doing anything tonight :/ im sorry I guess you have the right to hate me a tad" I was literally stunned by this. What a complete turnaround. I'm used to getting ditched last minute like this, but I thought my new bag of tricks might help to remedy that. she has continued texting me over the last hour. "I'm sorry. don't be mad" "you probably are though" "you obv are :(" "i'm sorry ok" "will there be a time you will forgive me? :)" I haven't responded to anything. What do you guys think about this chick? Should I give her the time of day or just chalk it up to another failure?
oaks Posted September 26, 2011 Posted September 26, 2011 Should I give her the time of day or just chalk it up to another failure? Do you want to see her again or do you want to be able to say that you followed some stupid rules?
Author vanek26 Posted September 26, 2011 Author Posted September 26, 2011 obviously i'd like to see her again. But I don't want to fall into the same pitfalls that make me too available, etc. Just wondering if there's a proper way to respond to this
oaks Posted September 26, 2011 Posted September 26, 2011 Just wondering if there's a proper way to respond to this Just act like a normal human being instead of a PUA. I can't guarantee that will work, but it's the proper way to behave. You're probably frustrated that she cancelled, which is fine. Letting her know that you're frustrated is fine, too. She'll be at home tonight, so call her. (Or if she's not at home then she lied to you and she isn't worth further attention.)
phineas Posted September 26, 2011 Posted September 26, 2011 First time they flake I tell 'em "no problem, let me know when..[crisis is over]" And just leave it at that. Let them contact me. If they don't great. If they do, great. If she flakes again she is done. I don't even bother responding and ignore any & all attempts short of her showing up at my door in a trench coat & nothing else.
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