sweetgirl90 Posted September 26, 2011 Posted September 26, 2011 This might be long but please bear with me. I joined a dating website a few weeks ago and met a really nice man through it. The first date was a coffee and some light lunch which went really well. The conversation flowed and it looked as if he was into me. We even kissed after he dropped me home which was sweet. We agreed to a second date, which was lunch. It went very well and we ended up going to see a movie afterwards. I asked him out for a third date and offered to pay. We went to a bar and had a few drinks after he had finished work. I feel as if everything is going well, but somehow I'm worrying a little. When we first started chatting he admitted he had broken up with his ex-girlfriend back in June and that he wasn't sure if he wanted anything serious. I said I understood. However, I'm starting to really like him and don't want to be hurt. I haven't brought up any of this face-to-face though, as I feel as if it's too early to be discussing a relationship yet. Another thing to mention. On the third date we started become touchy feeling and things got pretty heated in his car (not sex or anything of sexual nature, it was just hands everywhere!!) He did admit he wasn't using me but wanted to get me into bed!! I told him I didn't want just sex which he understood. He also said that in no way was he rushing me and that he was sorry he said it. He did look sorry too! I don't know what to do now. We're meeting tomorrow for a quick coffee during his lunch break. I am starting to fall for him, and I don't know how he feels. All his actions and his words kind of point out that he does like me, but I was suprised when he admitted the "getting me into bed" thing. Any advice or tips for the next date? Is it wise to keep seeing him due to the fact he might not want a relationship?!
rie39 Posted September 27, 2011 Posted September 27, 2011 Girl, I am in the same spot as you. Like the exact same spot. Seeing a guy you know may not be ready for a relationship but you are already and uncontrollably falling for. And you feel you should stop seeing him to prevent yourself from getting hurt, but deep inside you feel maybe there's a chance between you two. BUT you also don't want to bring up any questions because you feel its way too early and it will scare the guy away. This situation sucks! I think you should ask him if he wants a relationship with you or still doesn't feel he wants anything serious. Ask for a clear answer. If he does, then great, you can see where things go from there. But if he says he doesn't, it's probably best you stop seeing him for your own sake. Because I doubt he will change his mind any time soon.
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