MESO Posted May 13, 2004 Posted May 13, 2004 Me and my girlfriend went on a break three weeks ago...at first she said she wanted to take it easy for a while because seh was confused and didnt know what she wanted...she said we should just go back to dating..seeing each otehr like once or twice a week...i keep asking ehr questions about the terms of this and she just keeps saying i dunno im confused...i asked her if she still considered me her boyfriend and she said i dunno...i asked if we are gonna date otehr people and she said "who would i date?" What does taht mean? so if there was someone for her to date she would??? i dunno i guess i should have asked her at the time... and she told me, "Do what you gotta do" i said what does that mean and she said i dunno she basically told me to move on right? well weve went on a couple dates and there is just nothing there from her... So come to tonite my sister and ehr friend stopped over and said hey you wanna go out with us we got some girls for you to meet... i couldnt, i felt like id be ruining anyting with her by meeting other girls i guess it would be easier for me if actually knew if we were over or not...i just dont wanna keep bringing it up to her because i dont wanna seem so pushy and needy
butterfly33 Posted May 13, 2004 Posted May 13, 2004 i would break up with her, u deserve someone who knows they want to be with you. she's being selfish
Author MESO Posted May 13, 2004 Author Posted May 13, 2004 i kno she just thinks im sitting here waiting for her to tell me she loves me again... she knows i dont do much and i dont have friends to go out with so she really has nothing to worry about...im basically like a safety net she knows ill be there waiting... we still talk every night so would it be a good idea to just casually mention it to her that there maybe people actually intersted in me... maybe shell realize that she could actually lose me before she is ready too? this is just wishful thinking here
butterfly33 Posted May 13, 2004 Posted May 13, 2004 i'm just curious, was your relationship ever a really good relationship? did she ever make u really happy? how do you feel about her? How would you feel is she broke things off? i'm just wondering because it seems that you wont b that hurt, or would you?
Author MESO Posted May 13, 2004 Author Posted May 13, 2004 well the first year was great...things were still ok for a while but after a while we stopped comunicating well... things started getting a litle weird... but we loved each other so much i think there is something to save... its just i dont know if she feels the same way really i love her so much and would do anything for her i cant remember the last time she made me happy...at the end it seemed like i was the only one working for us we had something so special though...if i just knew where things went so wrong and we could start over from tehre i think it could be different
is2jours Posted May 13, 2004 Posted May 13, 2004 there is no turning back, there is only moving on. If you want to see other people, see other people. If you're not ready to see other people cause you're still hung up over this limbo relationship than you're not ready to see other people. Don't start dating just 'cause you think she needs a wake up call - that new person you could be seeing is a person with feelings too! Moving on isn't about starting a new relationship, it's about moving on on your own. Try it, learn something about yourself, concentrate on you for awhile.
Becks84 Posted May 21, 2004 Posted May 21, 2004 Originally posted by MESO i kno she just thinks im sitting here waiting for her to tell me she loves me again... she knows i dont do much and i dont have friends to go out with so she really has nothing to worry about...im basically like a safety net she knows ill be there waiting... so would it be a good idea to just casually mention it to her that there maybe people actually intersted in me...maybe shell realize that she could actually lose me before she is ready too? She's got the upper-hand and she knows it. She's gonna keep dragging you along for as long as you let her. SHe may be having the best of both worlds right now, everything just how she wants it; you there when she wants you there. This is unfair to you and just not healthy for you. Does she have anything to do with why you dont have many friends to go hang out with? Just curious. Stop being that safety net for her! Stop letting her think that you're just waiting around for her, because that's all you're gonna keep on doing...waiting. SHe'll have you wait forever for all she cares! She doesnt know what shes doing or what she wants, and she's bringing you down with her! Don't play any games with her, like by telling her there are girls interested in you or anything like that. She should already realize how special you are! You should however, want her to realize that you are better than this and do not want to or deserve to be treated like this. Show her this -- don't tell her. SHow her by not being at her every beg and call...don't sweat her...let her come to you...play hard to get. And if she doesnt come to you, well then it wasnt meant to be. {I know -- easier said than done } But you dont want to be with someone who doesnt want to be with you anyway! Or someone whose heart isnt 100% in the right place -- which is with you! You deserve better - start telling yourself that, and believe it! Best wishes!
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