futuregopher Posted September 26, 2011 Posted September 26, 2011 Hi everyone, I am not sure where to post so I will just post here. I've been single for the past 2 months after my ex of 2 years broke up with me. It was pretty peaceful and she just wanted to take time to focus on her career after her May 2011 graduation. I personally think it's a quarter life crisis and not GIGS. She lives in the suburbs of Chicago while I'm from NJ. We met at school in Illinois (I'm an out of state student). I am 21 years old (she's 22) and it's my last semester in college. I will be working in NYC come January 2012 for a big 4 firm with roughly 60 hour work weeks. I would like her back but I am not going to wait around for her. I've been in a farm town in Illinois for the past four years of my life and I'm deathly scared of NYC culture shock. It's going to be weird working in NYC and all my friends that I've formed such great relationships with in college will still be in Illinois. I wouldn't want to date someone my last semester because I don't want to lead them on and have an LDR. My question is this - where do I meet new people in a big city like NYC? I would like to form a new circle of friends preferably outside of work and eventually start dating the women of NYC. Am I in for a rude awakening? Any advice and tips would be greatly appreciated! Thank you!
Feelin Frisky Posted September 26, 2011 Posted September 26, 2011 It's hard to say. I'm from there and that's a much different dynamic than going there to work from a smaller town. If you are fortunate enough to be filling a job with some really good growth potential and your young, you could find yourself in a world of social fun. I can also be a lonely place depending on your job and age and personality, so hopefully fortune will just be in your favor and you'll find out where it's happening for your age group. Since that changes a lot and I'm older, I couldn't say right now where it's happening to meet people. Make the most of every opportunity though--don't let yourself get lost in the crowd. Good luck.
Marie63 Posted September 26, 2011 Posted September 26, 2011 I had culture shock. It turned into a great thing for me. My friends told me I talked too fast, but then I started talking like them in habit. They thought I was great and promoted me beyond what I thought of myself. I was still nervous and apprehensive in a huge metro city, and sought out things that were me. I also said yes to every employee get together - so you meet minds alike. I wish you the best. I had some culture shock experiences and just said No. Pardon Me, and walked away. Be polite about it, and think about it later to see if it was the culture or rude people -
Marie63 Posted September 26, 2011 Posted September 26, 2011 Hi everyone, I am not sure where to post so I will just post here. I've been single for the past 2 months after my ex of 2 years broke up with me. It was pretty peaceful and she just wanted to take time to focus on her career after her May 2011 graduation. I personally think it's a quarter life crisis and not GIGS. She lives in the suburbs of Chicago while I'm from NJ. We met at school in Illinois (I'm an out of state student). I am 21 years old (she's 22) and it's my last semester in college. I will be working in NYC come January 2012 for a big 4 firm with roughly 60 hour work weeks. I would like her back but I am not going to wait around for her. I've been in a farm town in Illinois for the past four years of my life and I'm deathly scared of NYC culture shock. It's going to be weird working in NYC and all my friends that I've formed such great relationships with in college will still be in Illinois. I wouldn't want to date someone my last semester because I don't want to lead them on and have an LDR. My question is this - where do I meet new people in a big city like NYC? I would like to form a new circle of friends preferably outside of work and eventually start dating the women of NYC. Am I in for a rude awakening? Any advice and tips would be greatly appreciated! Thank you! I grew up on a farm too - read my reply.
thehead Posted September 26, 2011 Posted September 26, 2011 Why are you hesitant to make friends with your coworkers? They'll be the most likely source for socializing. Working 60 hours a week is a big chunk of time. Spend part of it making friends with them since going out after work is a common occurrance. Otherwise, a lot of NYC meetups are big, especially ones that involve museum outings and cultural events.
Author futuregopher Posted September 27, 2011 Author Posted September 27, 2011 Thanks for the responses! I am actually not hesitant about hanging out with co-workers. I am actually really looking forward to it. I am just worried that I might like one of my co-workers. At this point, I am really unsure of office dating. I can't wait for the next three months to go by. It's so hard being on campus but not being able to enjoy a relationship with a significant other and not being able to start a relationship because I am from NJ while I go to school in Illinois. It really sucks. I hope it gets better.
samphs Posted October 3, 2011 Posted October 3, 2011 Meeting people in NYC is very hard, if you are lucky then your coworkers will be nice otherwise meetups are nice as well, though it seems more like dating and what you need to start with is friends... do you have any hobbies, maybe through those you can make some friends.
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