RainDown Posted October 3, 2011 Posted October 3, 2011 I agree that using polygraph to verify what particular sex act performed that night would be like using a nuke to hunt down a mouse. At this point, the options for him are quite clear and limited. If this particular ONS according to her minimized version is enough for him to D, then there is no point pursuing further truth. If however he still wants to leave the option of R open with thread of hope this is truly a one time mistake, then the only next course of action is to dig the truth with everything he has. Is she just a lost soul who made a poor judgement on the night of ONS influenced by alcochol and her wicked GF? Or, is this indeed a tip of iceberg of her monstrous behaviors for a long time? He has to know the truth who she really is to determine whether he wants R or not. Based on what he's been told so far, he is stuck in limbo without knowing what to believe. I agree totally with most of what you've said, but I do not believe the actions taken that night by MW to be a mistake. A mistake is bouncing a check because you calculated your bank balance inaccurately. MW made deliberate decisions every step of the way that evening that culminated in having sex with a man in his bed in his apartment. She deliberately chose to lie to her husband about her whereabouts. She deliberately and willingly went with a man from the bar, to her friend's apartment, to his car, to his apartment, to his bed. Those are six conscious, deliberate decisions on her part, and each of those decisions shows profound lack of control or outright self-indulgence. Not to mention, blatant disregard for her husband. I think it's going to take the OP a long, long time to ever wrap his head around the true magnitude of this display of behavior because there are never-ending issues here, one on top of the other. It doesn't help matters much that she keeps pulling the "I don't remember" card, hoping he will back off. I did that a lot too, and it always worked. Needless to say, my partners went round and round in circles with me too about my "mistakes", instead of just calling it what it was - downright nasty, skanky, unforgivable behavior on my part. Heck, a lot of times the situation wound up with them apologizing to me for being so mean to my confused, contrite, remorseful, ashamed little self who just made a really bad "mistake". Having a man's penis inside one's vagina is a decision.
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