ffw Posted September 26, 2011 Posted September 26, 2011 (edited) Hello Everone, I am a bit new to this thread. I am coping my breakup right now. My breakup story is here http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t298964/ The more I read different stories and opinions the faster I get heal. I am using this form to express my feelings. Today, is my birthday & I know my ex is not going to wish me. Here's my thoughts of the day The thing is I spent 4 & ½ with my ex & no one knows her better than me. She had the longest relationship with me in her life. All before me were only for short duration. I know she is in a relationship now (maybe rebound) & she always give more than her partner. That’s one of the reason she gets very disappointed when it doesn't works out. It’s been 20 days since breakup & sometimes my heart thinks she may back. She is different than others, my story is different than others but the fact is unless her heart is broken again she is not going to come back. Even if that happens, she may move to some other person. So, I am giving up the idea that she is ever going to come back & am moving on. What I learnt from my life experience is once its gone its gone forever. No matter how small/big mistakes you/your partner did. There is no second chance & your ex is not going to come back. Sorry for being pessimistic but I think that’s the truth & it will help you to heal faster. Any opinions? Edited September 26, 2011 by ffw
mike588 Posted September 26, 2011 Posted September 26, 2011 Hello Everone, I am a bit new to this thread. I am coping my breakup right now. My breakup story is here http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t298964/ The more I read different stories and opinions the faster I get heal. I am using this form to express my feelings. Today, is my birthday & I know my ex is not going to wish me. Here's my thoughts of the day The thing is I spent 4 & ½ with my ex & no one knows her better than me. She had the longest relationship with me in her life. All before me were only for short duration. I know she is in a relationship now (maybe rebound) & she always give more than her partner. That’s one of the reason she gets very disappointed when it doesn't works out. It’s been 20 days since breakup & sometimes my heart thinks she may back. She is different than others, my story is different than others but the fact is unless her heart is broken again she is not going to come back. Even if that happens, she may move to some other person. So, I am giving up the idea that she is ever going to come back & am moving on. What I learnt from my life experience is once its gone its gone forever. No matter how small/big mistakes you/your partner did. There is no second chance & your ex is not going to come back. Sorry for being pessimistic but I think that’s the truth & it will help you to heal faster. Any opinions? Happy Birthday. Sorry to hear that. Theres not telling if she will come back or not. What happened? Who broke up with who? It's best for you to "assume" she's not coming back and to move on. She may come back later,, would you take her back? Exs do come/go back to exs. I know from experience. 2 months ago my now ex g/f went back to her ex b/f.
Author ffw Posted September 26, 2011 Author Posted September 26, 2011 (edited) Hey Mike, Thank you. Sorry for your loss. My gf of 4 & 1/2 years (2 & 1/2 years separated) broke up 3 weeks back because 1) Lack of commitment from by side because of long distance, too long time separation & my studies 2) She could not see any future with me because I never proposed her for marriage, which she always wanted. After 3 days I wrote her my last letter expressing my feelings accepting my fault & apologising. Also, stating if can give me 1 chance & if still loves me I will marry her. I went for straight NC & she went for the other guy, which she thinks she can have future with. If she come back, I will take her but hopefully it wont be too late for that. I know in some rare case the ex returns back but in my case its not going to happen because she is very honest & faithful. Edited September 26, 2011 by ffw
Lucio Posted September 26, 2011 Posted September 26, 2011 hey ffw, i think too that nothing's for certain in this world. anything can happen. some say if a mirror is cracked, it's cracked. but hey, a lot of people continue to use cracked mirrors. keep your mind open, don't think too much.
MIK1000 Posted September 26, 2011 Posted September 26, 2011 deliberating over wether or not they will come running back or not seems to be making the moving on process a great deal harder. It's almost all I think about but it's a bitch to deal with because you don't want to give yourself false hope. In my case, My ex GF is young (19) me (20) and she went away to the other side of the world for the summer and seemingly lost all perspective and went cold on me pretty quick, broke up with me when I made a fuss about it then moved on to another relationship within two or 3 weeks. We were on the best terms of our relationship before she left and so it's easy for me to simply sit here and think that now that she's finally home, she's going to gain perspective again and realise what a big mistake she's made and that she does in fact love me and end her current relationship (which is long distance). I hate to sit and think that though because there's a pretty big chance that will never happen. In your case, your GF broke up with you because you seemingly weren't in to the relationship as much as she was. Her new relationship is undoubtedly a rebound and will fail (you don't move on from someone you wanted to marry that quick). If there's ever a chance a girl is in reach of coming back, I'd say it's yours. How the hell do we stop ourselves from thinking like this?
immitable Posted September 26, 2011 Posted September 26, 2011 Happy bithday hope you had a great day!
BklynGuy Posted September 27, 2011 Posted September 27, 2011 I had a gf of 4&1/2 yrs also. When we broke up I felt like my world, or the world I knew was over. I've been in other relationships but they've been crappy & abusive since her. She came back about 3-4 yrs later to be fwb, but eventually the old issues she had with me from our relationship began to surface. She said she had unresolved issues w/me. I was seeing other girls & didn't feel as attracted to her as I once did. Once she found this out, BAM! She was gone for Good. You never know, she might come back in the future.
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