Buzzmusic Posted September 26, 2011 Posted September 26, 2011 been with this girl for about a year. It was a long distance thing. I spent about 2 hours a day on the phone with this one while apart. Recently found her on a dating site (my friend who is active on the site found her, and tried messaging her. She never replied to him and just blocked him). I confronted her and she said her friend was using her profile and pics (its a paid dating site). She went from being a very sweet person to a complete coldhearted nutcase after this conversation. Of course I didn't buy her story. I emailed her telling her that what she did was wrong, and that she lead me on while talking to other dudes, and that I didn't deserve it, etc. She replied like I did something wrong, like I was the one that was at fault. I never responded. She texted a week later saying she was sorry for everything, I didn't respond. She texted a week after that asking her if I tried to calling her: "Heyare you trying to call me?" I never replied. I don't plan on replying at all. My question is, do you think that last message was an excuse just to contact me? I completely blocked her away from my life and haven't contacted her since. What's this girls problem?
KathyM Posted September 26, 2011 Posted September 26, 2011 been with this girl for about a year. It was a long distance thing. I spent about 2 hours a day on the phone with this one while apart. Recently found her on a dating site (my friend who is active on the site found her, and tried messaging her. She never replied to him and just blocked him). I confronted her and she said her friend was using her profile and pics (its a paid dating site). She went from being a very sweet person to a complete coldhearted nutcase after this conversation. Of course I didn't buy her story. I emailed her telling her that what she did was wrong, and that she lead me on while talking to other dudes, and that I didn't deserve it, etc. She replied like I did something wrong, like I was the one that was at fault. I never responded. She texted a week later saying she was sorry for everything, I didn't respond. She texted a week after that asking her if I tried to calling her: "Heyare you trying to call me?" I never replied. I don't plan on replying at all. My question is, do you think that last message was an excuse just to contact me? I completely blocked her away from my life and haven't contacted her since. What's this girls problem? She obviously wants to get back with you. She was on the lookout for other potential guys on the dating website. That story about the profile being for somebody else was a crock of bull, of course. You were right to dump her. She has no business looking for others while still supposedly exclusive with you. Contacting you to ask if you were trying to get ahold of her was just an excuse to try to open up the dialogue again. You were wise to ignore that. Her behavior can certainly be considered cheating.
Author Buzzmusic Posted September 26, 2011 Author Posted September 26, 2011 Forgot to mention that she finally did confess that it was her on the website, and that she was looking for a man that is well off and that can support her so she doesn't have to work. I was just laughing at this. I didn't want a girl to like me for my money, so i dodged a bullet on this one. I finally got to realize what kind of person she is. She told me all of this in her last email before all the texting. But I do have to say that I miss the person I thought she was. Apparently that person doesn't exist. Which is why I don't reply to her at all. I have no reason to reply to someone like this. I guess what I'm asking you all is that since I'm doing the no contact thing (not on purpose, I just don't feel the need to contact or reply her for anything), can her texts be a result of the NC? And if so, is it going to get worse?
KathyM Posted September 26, 2011 Posted September 26, 2011 Forgot to mention that she finally did confess that it was her on the website, and that she was looking for a man that is well off and that can support her so she doesn't have to work. I was just laughing at this. I didn't want a girl to like me for my money, so i dodged a bullet on this one. I finally got to realize what kind of person she is. She told me all of this in her last email before all the texting. But I do have to say that I miss the person I thought she was. Apparently that person doesn't exist. Which is why I don't reply to her at all. I have no reason to reply to someone like this. I guess what I'm asking you all is that since I'm doing the no contact thing (not on purpose, I just don't feel the need to contact or reply her for anything), can her texts be a result of the NC? And if so, is it going to get worse? I'm guessing she is not having any luck finding someone that interests her on the dating website, so she's trying to keep you strung along as a back up plan. I think if you continue to ignore her attempts to contact you, she'll stop before too long.
silly_panda Posted September 26, 2011 Posted September 26, 2011 I have to say that you are kinda lucky to find out what kinda person she really is... It's better to find out sooner than later... But I do feel for you cause you do love this girl (the fake her)... I think you are doing good and will be back in the game in no time... Good luck...
TheDovic Posted September 26, 2011 Posted September 26, 2011 Yes, 100% sure it was just an excuse! Her problem is she seems to like you, but she can't have her cake and eat it too. In my opinion if she really liked you she wouldn't have been on the dating site... alternatively, maybe losing you has made her realise what she had!!!
Author Buzzmusic Posted September 26, 2011 Author Posted September 26, 2011 I am happy that I didn't move further on with the girl. There was no indication that she was going to be like this at all from all the time I had spent with her. It just came all of a sudden. I think her sister's wedding affected her, since her sis is younger and getting married and she (fake girl) is not even engaged yet. It just sucks knowing she was fake the whole time I was with her.
radiodarcy Posted September 26, 2011 Posted September 26, 2011 Forgot to mention that she finally did confess that it was her on the website, and that she was looking for a man that is well off and that can support her so she doesn't have to work. I was just laughing at this. I didn't want a girl to like me for my money, so i dodged a bullet on this one. I finally got to realize what kind of person she is. She told me all of this in her last email before all the texting. But I do have to say that I miss the person I thought she was. Apparently that person doesn't exist. Which is why I don't reply to her at all. I have no reason to reply to someone like this. I guess what I'm asking you all is that since I'm doing the no contact thing (not on purpose, I just don't feel the need to contact or reply her for anything), can her texts be a result of the NC? And if so, is it going to get worse? isn't that nice. she lies to you when she gets caught and then admits the truth (as if you didn't know ) once you start ignoring her. she really thought she was going to get away with keeping you around as a safety net while she cruised for well off guys (how shallow!) you are right, she is definitely not the person you thought she was. good on you for maintaining your dignity and sticking to NC. yes, it's possible the storm will get worse. just continue to ignore her and if she gets too out of control with the texting either see if you can block her or change your number altogether. you definitely dodged a bullet here.
Isaiah Jackson Posted September 26, 2011 Posted September 26, 2011 Well based on the story she is trying to get in contact with you. Her story about the dating site is a lie we all know that your doing the right thing with ignoring her keep it up because at this point it can only get worse think about it, lies in your face and then once you leave tries to tell you the truth I wouldn't waste my time if I were you
Author Buzzmusic Posted September 26, 2011 Author Posted September 26, 2011 I know, it's wierd. I guess I should have expected something like this. After all, I met her on the same dating site a year ago. Maybe it was my mistake and maybe I missed the warning signs. Thank you all.
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