Rosie1964 Posted September 26, 2011 Posted September 26, 2011 everything is still pretty fresh for me. can't stop crying and it feels like somebody hit me with a brick. I got broken up with in a text message! my mind is still all scrambled and I can't think straight, after two years with this man who i deeply fell in love with, he can;t even come and talk to me. this is making me physically ill. he also told me there is someone else and that he doesn't want to lose me completely. I feel broken and weak,
Grinder88 Posted September 26, 2011 Posted September 26, 2011 You're not alone tonight...last night the girl of my dreams stopped all contact with me i had to find out through a friend shes gone back to her ex. I dont know what hurts worse the fact that she just stopped talking to me without any warning or the fact that she is no longer in my life
HollyHoliday Posted September 26, 2011 Posted September 26, 2011 Hi Rosie, first off I am so sorry that your breakup occurred this way. It isn't fair, and you don't deserve it. You are definitely not alone. My best advice here is to initiate NC right away. He doesn't want to loose you completely? Well, that isn't really possible when he has started something up with someone else. He has to live with his choices, and he will realize that it was a poor one to end your relationship over a text. It was something a coward would do, someone who doesn't have it in them to discuss the situation to your face. They are the one with the problem, not you.
Author Rosie1964 Posted September 26, 2011 Author Posted September 26, 2011 thank you. Iknow how you feel and I am sorry you have to go thru this. during the day all I wanted was to sleep and now I don't want to go to bed. feels even more lonely. feels like I just gonna sit here and just stop breathing, I don't even want to move. he texted me he doesn't want to lose me completley. Feels like I just been thrown away, like an old shoe. every fiber of my body hurts.
Grinder88 Posted September 26, 2011 Posted September 26, 2011 Im sorry you got just got pushed aside like I did, and although Im probably in no position to give advice, because i cant even think about her without choking up, but you just gotta force yourself to keep moving and try to keep your mind on other things long enough so you can fall asleep...I know that is what im gonna try to do tonight
Author Rosie1964 Posted September 26, 2011 Author Posted September 26, 2011 All of this seems so surreal. like I am in a bad lifetime movie. last week i get messages and texts how much he missed me. now I feel empty and drained. the emotional pain is almost too much to handle.
Grinder88 Posted September 26, 2011 Posted September 26, 2011 Believe me when i tell you i feel for you completely, the whole not wanting to eat or even sleep and not even wanting to breathe sometimes....it sucks how evil some people can be, the thing that is keeping me going right now is knowing im gonna get so much stronger from this....and there will be that day im on top of the world when i run into her again...Just find something and keep occupied, the pain will get less and less and those moments when you can't help but start crying will get further and further apart
Author Rosie1964 Posted September 26, 2011 Author Posted September 26, 2011 Don't know how to handle this. feeling lost. I hope you are right. still trying to figure out what happened here. I was so good to him, maybe too good. no idea where to go from here or what to do.
silly_panda Posted September 26, 2011 Posted September 26, 2011 Don't try to figure out what happened... You will just end up with thousands of questions with no answer... Accept what had happened... Look back into your relationship and figure out what are the things that you think you had done wrong or need to improve... Work on those so that you will be a better person in your next relationship... The only thing you need to remember is that your ex left you for a reason... And the reason is that he don't love and feel attracted to you anymore... Hard to swallow but that's the truth... The truth always hurts... But the sooner you are able to accept that, the sooner you could heal and move on... Focus on yourself and slowly let it go...
TheDovic Posted September 26, 2011 Posted September 26, 2011 What a coward he really is Rosie! They say when things get tough you can really tell a person's character, and when the chips were down here he TEXTED YOU following two years together and had the audacity to tell you he doesn't want to lose you!!!??? This is not a man who deserves anyone! I'm not going to lie to you, you have a tough few months ahead of you but there is a lot of support out there. There have been a lot of times over the past few months where I didn't think I could go on living I was so bad, but I'm really starting to get through this. Here's a list of things that can help: - Keep coming on this site. There are some fantastic people on it who will be there to listen and give you advice when you need it. - Go to counselling / therapy. I've started to avail of this over the past few weeks and it's really been helping. - If necessary speak to your GP. Breakups are emotionally devastating and sometimes we need a bit of help i.e. antidepressants, sleeping tablets or simply someone to talk to. - Speak to your friends and family - Read! I recommend Paul McKenna's "I can mend your broken heart" and Susan Elliot's "Getting past your break up." These two books have fantastic reviews on Amazon (almost flawless in fact) and I have started using them and they are really starting to help. - Cut contact with him. I'm a bit of a hypocrite because it took me so long to do this, but once I did things started to become a lot easier (even though I'd never have believed this before)
ChelleBelle Posted September 26, 2011 Posted September 26, 2011 What a cowardly and horrible thing to do. A snake in the grass is higher than him. He does not deserve you. Read the posts and support on this forum. There are many people that will give you the support and guidance you need at this desperate time. And he wants to be your friend! What a cheek!
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