jumpman23 Posted September 26, 2011 Posted September 26, 2011 So I was set up on a blind date and everything went well, she is definitely interested. However, I did not call her the next week. According to our mutual friend she was disappointed. Should I call or text to set something up? She lives in Philadelphia and I live an hour away in Jersey. I told her previously I would meet up w/ her in Philly. I don't really know much about Philadelphia, so she would be the one setting the date up.
CarrieT Posted September 26, 2011 Posted September 26, 2011 I've never even been to Philadephia and a little Googling produces a whole bunch of date ideas... They have a gorgeous arborteum (picnics are always nice). Ton of cool museums. Carriage rides. Sometimes it is great fun to a tourist in one's own city; plan a few tourist things to give her an option and tell her that you would like her to pick which one to introduce YOU to HER city.
Author jumpman23 Posted September 26, 2011 Author Posted September 26, 2011 thanks for the responses I have been out of the dating game for awhile, but, should I call or text?
KathyM Posted September 26, 2011 Posted September 26, 2011 So I was set up on a blind date and everything went well, she is definitely interested. However, I did not call her the next week. According to our mutual friend she was disappointed. Should I call or text to set something up? She lives in Philadelphia and I live an hour away in Jersey. I told her previously I would meet up w/ her in Philly. I don't really know much about Philadelphia, so she would be the one setting the date up. I would suggest you do a little internet research and find a romantic restaurant in her home town. Call her and ask her if she'd like to go out to dinner with you, and set the time to pick her up. Texting is too impersonal at this point, IMO. Then plan something for after the dinner, such as going to listen to music or dancing. You can find out what is available online. I would suggest you plan the date at this point. And next time, don't wait so long in between dates. If you don't take an active approach to dating, the woman either loses interest or she thinks you are not interested, and she moves on to someone who shows more interest in her.
ChessPieceFace Posted September 26, 2011 Posted September 26, 2011 Romantic dinner for date #2? That seems really forward and out of place to me. I'd go with the 'fun date' suggestions.
coolheadal Posted September 26, 2011 Posted September 26, 2011 Liberty Bell is a neat place to go.. I only been to that City once. Need to look up and see where you can go. Park is nice too.
KathyM Posted September 26, 2011 Posted September 26, 2011 Romantic dinner for date #2? That seems really forward and out of place to me. I'd go with the 'fun date' suggestions. I'm a fan of setting the tone right from the start. I know my sister has been more impressed with a man that went for the romantic dinner early on. I think it's a good idea to not tiptoe into a relationship, and I'm more a fan of sweeping a woman off her feet. I think coming on as a romantic date on a second date sets the right tone for the potential relationship. Once the initial meeting is done at a more casual setting, to make sure there is chemistry and interest, I don't believe in taking it slow.
ChessPieceFace Posted September 26, 2011 Posted September 26, 2011 I'm a fan of setting the tone right from the start. I agree... except that while agreeing with that I'd still go for the fun date. I like to do fun things and activities. I'd want to be with someone that was the same way. I'm not that comfortable just eating and talking, especially with someone I barely know. I'd want to be with someone that understood that (and perhaps was also the same way.) So, for me, setting the tone would be the fun date. I'd want a girl that liked to do that. So maybe for the OP, setting the tone would be whatever he would want the relationship to be?
KathyM Posted September 26, 2011 Posted September 26, 2011 I agree... except that while agreeing with that I'd still go for the fun date. I like to do fun things and activities. I'd want to be with someone that was the same way. I'm not that comfortable just eating and talking, especially with someone I barely know. I'd want to be with someone that understood that (and perhaps was also the same way.) So, for me, setting the tone would be the fun date. I'd want a girl that liked to do that. So maybe for the OP, setting the tone would be whatever he would want the relationship to be? The beauty of sitting across a table having to engage in conversation is that you actually do get to know the other person, and have the opportunity to find out a lot about the other person. But I would agree that the fun dates are also enjoyable. I just think it's important to establish a romantic tone early on.
ChessPieceFace Posted September 26, 2011 Posted September 26, 2011 The beauty of sitting across a table having to engage in conversation is that you actually do get to know the other person, and have the opportunity to find out a lot about the other person. But I would agree that the fun dates are also enjoyable. I just think it's important to establish a romantic tone early on. Again, might depend on what the OP wants. Maybe for YOU, you need the romantic dinner very early on. You seem to imply that goes for all women, I don't know if that is accurate. Or maybe you feel most comfortable in a dinner setting. Conversation is certainly more than possible at the suggested "driving range and ice cream" idea. That sounds like a good idea unless the guy totally sucked at golf... that could be embarrassing. One piece of advice I've heard that I agree with is that movies are pretty bad early dates. That makes sense since you are basically sitting in silence for 2 hours, and also because if the movie sucked, it will take away from the date even more. That said, I've had little practical experience, but I am a very wise genius so take that as you will.
CarrieT Posted September 26, 2011 Posted September 26, 2011 thanks for the responses I have been out of the dating game for awhile, but, should I call or text? Call. Women always prefer to hear a guys voice versus the impersonal text...
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