maryam1991 Posted September 26, 2011 Posted September 26, 2011 I dated this guy Daniel for 9 months... We had a great relationship full of love but we were fighting constantly as well due to the fact that he was very jealous and possessive. He made me give up almost all of my guy friends due to the fact that he didnt trust me to talk to them. He gave me a promise ring and told me he loves me almost everyday until towards the end of our relationship he started getting distant from me and told me that he was losing his feelings for me due to the fact that we fight all the time and he feels like i never give him enough attention since im busy with school. He told me he didnt think he loved me anymore. He broke up with me right before he went to go visit his family in another state 3 months ago and I was devastated. We started talking again a week later and I found out that he had already slept with another girl. I was heart broken but he told me that it didnt mean anything with her and he loves me and he thinks he wants to try with me again. I agreed and we decided to get back together when he gets back from the other state. Everyday we talked on the phone and we would tell each other how much we mean to each other. We were basically a couple again without the title. However when he got back to our state he started acting very cold and distant from me. I noticed he had added several other girls on his facebook and one day i noticed he wrote a status about this girl named nanci and how much he likes her.. only 3 days after he got back from his home state. I called him and asked him what was going on and he told me that he doesnt love me and he wants to find the girl he could "love and would love him back". He told me we are not meant to be and he doesnt love me so he has to let me go. He also told me that he has feelings for this Nanci girl and things with her are a lot different then they were with me. Afterwards I also found out that he had slept with this girl while he was visiting his family and that he had done it while he and I were talking to each other about becoming a couple again. I was heart broken and I went out on a date with a guy from my class. He found out and he yelled at me calling me a wh*** and a slu*.... Then he asked her to be his girlfriend and told me that he never wants to talk to me again.. After that we stopped talking and eventually i moved on with a man I met who treated me great and we got along so well. one day i get a text from Daniel about how much he misses me and wants me back... he said he left nanci because he doesnt love her. He begged me to leave my new man and try to be with him again. I told him no and i told him that im happy with my new man. He was very upset and he tried to win me over by calling and texting everyday. Eventually he stopped. I knew I was still in love with Daniel because I thought about him every day.. some nights i would fall asleep in tears because of how much I missed him. Eventually my new guy and i decided to call it quits due to the fact that he couldnt handle our religion differences. I was devastated about loosing such a great guy and I decided to tell Daniel and ask him if he wants to try us again. He was very mad and told me that he feels like a second choice and he isnt sure if he still wants to be with me now that the only reason i want him back is because i "got dumped". We went out of a date two days agao and we had a great time. We went to the beach and we kissed by the waves.. He told me he loves me and wants to marry me. We spent the whole day holding each other and telling each other how much we love each other. Eventually we decided we are going to get back together. However when i got home from our date and he called me he told me that we cant let anyone know about us for a while because he doesnt want to hurt his ex nanci and he doesnt want his family and friends to think hes pathetic for taking me back after how i refused to leave another man for him. I got mad at him and he told me never to talk to him again... He is now ignoring me and he has blocked me from his facebook and wont answer any of my calls. Im very sad because I still love him and I really wanted to try being with him again... What do I do? who is to blame here??? =[
antz2411 Posted September 26, 2011 Posted September 26, 2011 a man should always be proud of his woman regardless of the circumstance! if he is ashamed to let anyone know you're his is the time you need to have respect for yourself and walk away!
aerogurl87 Posted September 26, 2011 Posted September 26, 2011 a man should always be proud of his woman regardless of the circumstance! if he is ashamed to let anyone know you're his is the time you need to have respect for yourself and walk away! I second this. My ex pulled some "don't tell anyone" crap like this when we were timing of being together and I told him I refused to be a secret and walked away from the situation. Please have enough love for yourself and do the same.
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