CarrieT Posted September 26, 2011 Posted September 26, 2011 Hey, guys! Here I am, 47 years old and having recently complained about how I have never been approached organically - only via dating and sex sites. Well, tonight I was at a local jazz club that a girlfriend invited me to. Unbeknownst to me, she also invited another friend of hers, a composer and art collector. He was impressed with my knowledge of music and art and after the group was done, we sat and talked for another hour about WWI, the Black Death, the tulip mania of the 1500s, ergot poisoning, how to make oatmeal, Monet, Brad Mehldau, and more. Never frigg'n happened to me before and he said he was going to call me for dinner later this week. Not sure I've ever met a male counterpart to me, but it will certainly be interesting!
thatone Posted September 26, 2011 Posted September 26, 2011 good for you! i was impressed with my gf knowing as much about the art/literature as she did too, but on the historic stuff i wind up talking to myself, you got us beat on that topic.
OnyxSnowfall Posted September 26, 2011 Posted September 26, 2011 Yay ! I hope your dinner with him goes well
carhill Posted September 26, 2011 Posted September 26, 2011 Now enjoy the rest of the week and don't discuss his upcoming call at all. Good luck
Dust Posted September 26, 2011 Posted September 26, 2011 I don’t believe in internet dating or bars for the simple reason that girls love a good out of the blue encounter. Of course that only counts if they enjoy the encounter, but you have to creep a few eggs out to make an omelet. (yeah and if you have the balls to ask girls out like this you get better results) Sounds like you’re excited and scared at the same time. Enjoy!
Cee Posted September 26, 2011 Posted September 26, 2011 I have learned to never say never. You posted that you never got a date through an in-person encounter, and look, you have one. Life is funny that way. When we think we know the dating terrain, something unexpected happens. Enjoy your dinner date.
Art_Critic Posted September 26, 2011 Posted September 26, 2011 There is always someone around the corner Hope you enjoy his company.. "How to make Oatmeal" ???.. You tear the top off the package and add water, Nuke and eat..
Feelin Frisky Posted September 26, 2011 Posted September 26, 2011 Hey, guys! Here I am, 47 years old and having recently complained about how I have never been approached organically - only via dating and sex sites. Well, tonight I was at a local jazz club that a girlfriend invited me to. Unbeknownst to me, she also invited another friend of hers, a composer and art collector. He was impressed with my knowledge of music and art and after the group was done, we sat and talked for another hour about WWI, the Black Death, the tulip mania of the 1500s, ergot poisoning, how to make oatmeal, Monet, Brad Mehldau, and more. Never frigg'n happened to me before and he said he was going to call me for dinner later this week. Not sure I've ever met a male counterpart to me, but it will certainly be interesting! Wow, I hope he calls you and something happens for you if that's what you want. That's impressive that you have knowledge and insights on such things. I've never had a love interest that I could communicate with on that level and the idea is a little scary to wonder what that might be like if I turned out to be the lesser historian. I'm happy as can be right now with an extremely bright sweetheart who can handle my intellect without feeling the need to compete or down herself because she doesn't know everything i do exactly. I've never set out to trounce anyone with my knowledge or be the least bit competitive about my understanding of things--i just turned out to retain information almost effortlessly and have it somehow reveal its relevances unconsciously in the back of my head while I cut my toe nails or do whatever mundane things everyone else does. But anyway, I don't even have male friends that take history to heart enough to make an hour or two of interesting give and take about such pleasantries as the the influenza epidemic of the nineteen teens or w/e. If your knowledge is coincidental to your artistic nature and he is an art collector/admirer, it sounds like the makings of a good chemistry with no academic one-ups-manship lying in wait to rear it's territorial little head. All the best.
Author CarrieT Posted September 26, 2011 Author Posted September 26, 2011 But anyway, I don't even have male friends that take history to heart enough to make an hour or two of interesting give and take about such pleasantries as the the influenza epidemic of the nineteen teens or w/e. If your knowledge is coincidental to your artistic nature and he is an art collector/admirer, it sounds like the makings of a good chemistry with no academic one-ups-manship lying in wait to rear it's territorial little head. All the best. Funny - we talked about that too! Wow, I hope he calls you and something happens for you if that's what you want. He actually started emailing me first thing this morning; sites on the Count St. Germain, Mozart & Masonry, and other esoteric interests we share. And then he called and wanted to talk a lot, but I'm at work so I told him to call me this evening. Honestly, he seems a little ADT-ish but I'm willing to get to know him. I'm also talking to a LOT of guys from the BDSM sites and a handful from the vanilla, fielding the usual questions and whatnot. That is sort of rain-or-drought in not getting a hit on a single in weeks and then a dozen in a day. But it is helping me NOT think about the guy I want to see who has no time for me...
OliveOyl Posted September 26, 2011 Posted September 26, 2011 Cool turn of events, Carrie!! Hope all goes well And history is my lowest-of-low subjects, I would have sat there muttering "mm-hmmm" and "that's interesting" so I think it's totally awesome you were able to connect on that level!
Forever Learning Posted September 26, 2011 Posted September 26, 2011 I'm so excited for you Carrie, I will keep my fingers crossed! This couldn't have come at a better time for you, I think the universe is smiling on you. Bout time, huh? Best of luck with him.
Author CarrieT Posted September 26, 2011 Author Posted September 26, 2011 This couldn't have come at a better time for you, I think the universe is smiling on you. Bout time, huh? Best of luck with him. It couldn't have come at a better time, so I appreciate the kind thoughts. It is the sort of thing that makes me breathe a little easier; to see there ARE options when it felt like there are none. There are some odd red flags which have me cautious; like he is a classically-trained pianist (I DID hear him play), owns $10m in artwork, and has to leave for Tripoli next week for his work with the Department of the Defense? :rolleyes: But he was introduced by a mutual friend and I will certainly be on my guard and investigative... Too much smoke and mirrors, perhaps.
Cee Posted September 27, 2011 Posted September 27, 2011 There are some odd red flags which have me cautious; like he is a classically-trained pianist (I DID hear him play), owns $10m in artwork, and has to leave for Tripoli next week for his work with the Department of the Defense? :rolleyes: These are not garden variety red flags. This guy sounds like he should be in a Bond movie.
OliveOyl Posted September 27, 2011 Posted September 27, 2011 There are some odd red flags which have me cautious; like he is a classically-trained pianist (I DID hear him play), owns $10m in artwork, and has to leave for Tripoli next week for his work with the Department of the Defense? :rolleyes: Why is being a classically-trained pianist a red flag? That sounds awesome.
Star Gazer Posted September 27, 2011 Posted September 27, 2011 These are not garden variety red flags. This guy sounds like he should be in a Bond movie. No kidding! I say, ENJOY IT for now!
thatone Posted September 27, 2011 Posted September 27, 2011 I've never had a love interest that I could communicate with on that level and the idea is a little scary to wonder what that might be like if I turned out to be the lesser historian. I'm happy as can be right now with an extremely bright sweetheart who can handle my intellect without feeling the need to compete or down herself because she doesn't know everything i do exactly. me neither, i thought i might have this time around after the first couple of dates (on the second she wanted to go see Midnight in Paris, kinda stereotypical chick flick but with the twist of having a lot of dead artists/authors in the movie and she got more of the subtle jokes than me), but after some gallery walking dates after that, my high opinion of her artistic knowledge kinda faded. on the upside, she says she's attracted to my random bits of historic knowledge and likes hearing the stories, rather than being intimidated, so that's a plus. and yeah i can sympathize. my brother and i have those random discussions littered with literary quotes and classic movie quotes and such that no one else follows. if i met a woman like that i'd probably go crazy and propose to her after one date or something.
Author CarrieT Posted September 27, 2011 Author Posted September 27, 2011 and yeah i can sympathize. my brother and i have those random discussions littered with literary quotes and classic movie quotes and such that no one else follows. if i met a woman like that i'd probably go crazy and propose to her after one date or something. I'd say yes... When Thomas and I were talking, he mentioned Constance Bennett and the Count St. Germaine and when I countered with Kenneth Anger and La Rochefoucauld we started giggling. I have way too much esoterica in my head for most folks, but I don't know if this sort of shared drivel is sufficient for a loving, meaningful relationship.
thatone Posted September 27, 2011 Posted September 27, 2011 (edited) I'd say yes... When Thomas and I were talking, he mentioned Constance Bennett and the Count St. Germaine and when I countered with Kenneth Anger and La Rochefoucauld we started giggling. I have way too much esoterica in my head for most folks, but I don't know if this sort of shared drivel is sufficient for a loving, meaningful relationship. wow, lol. i can't picture how that conversation went, i'm familiar with all of those people (in passing). short independent films about gay bikers, alchemists, silent movie actresses, and medieval french philosophers all in one conversation? here's my opinion, as a fellow purveyor of worthless knowledge... people have to have something in common, and something that their partner appreciates about them. who cares what it actually is? what it is doesn't matter. it can be medieval french philosophers or it can be baseball or it can be gardening or it can be clay pottery. who gives a sh*t? all that matters is meeting people who you can share things with, whatever those things are. Edited September 27, 2011 by thatone
Feelin Frisky Posted September 27, 2011 Posted September 27, 2011 ergot poisoning lol, nice! Ha. I've had plenty of ergot excursions, but thankfully none of them poisonous.
PinkInTheLimo Posted September 27, 2011 Posted September 27, 2011 Honestly, he seems a little ADT-ish but I'm willing to get to know him. What is ADT? Glad to hear you met someone in a spontaneous way with whom you clicked very well. Hope he will call to set a date for the dinner!
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