Hurting123 Posted September 26, 2011 Posted September 26, 2011 Some of you may know my situation. My girlfriend of 2months went to Europe and came back and confessed to kissing someone while away. I dumped her then wanted her back. She wanted space. 2-3 weeks NC. Hoping She would come around Then I got a phone call from a friend from the trip yesterday. She told me that my girlfriend slept with 5-6 or guys in Europe. She even managed to sleep with a guy when she got back home that weekend. We were suppose to catch up at her parents house for a Sunday feast. But instead she had a guy in her bed that Sunday morning. Well there you go. That is the final outcome of all this. I felt physically Ill for 2 days. And I couldn't help but send her a final text saying I know exactly what you did and good luck with it all you whore. That felt good. She replied "dont care" And that is that. At least I have my closure. No more NC crap. Its dead and dusted. Erase it from my mind she ever existed. What a crazy 2 months it has been for me.
lonelynyc Posted September 26, 2011 Posted September 26, 2011 Exactly, you're better off alone. My ex's mistreatment of me wasn't so severe, but there are benefits to not being with people who just give you grief. She can be someone else's headache now, you won't have to waste your time or worry about getting tested for STDs every 3 months. You definitely came out the winner here.
jackjoynr Posted September 26, 2011 Posted September 26, 2011 Sorry to hear about that. You don't want or need someone like that anyways. She's shown her true colors. What's done in the dark will always show in the light. Glad you've been able to get some closure from this. She seems like a hot mess of a girl anyway. You're better off.
EgoJoe Posted September 26, 2011 Posted September 26, 2011 I am at a loss for words. It might seem horrible right now but knowing her true character should make it easier to let go. We are all here for you in this painful time.
Author Hurting123 Posted September 26, 2011 Author Posted September 26, 2011 I'm at a stage right now where I know I would never ever never come near her again. But at the same time I get flash backs in my head about things she would do and say to totally contradict such crazy behavior. "I'll be back soon.. Don't worry... I would never hurt you like that" When she knew I was a bit nervous about a 'singles' type trip to the islands. Wow! She sent emails every few days saying how much she missed me! It couldn't have turned out any worse. Her friend told me that she just became a monster on the trip.. Her first time overseas. She said in all her years of knowing her she had never done anything like this to a boyfriend. Her friend felt so guilty about it that she felt compelled to betray her and call me to tell me. It's hard to think what she got up to while she was over there. But the real knife was the fact that she came home and did it again before I was to see her. And then to confess about a kiss and say maybe we can start again and maybe I can trust her again??!? Its like someone cut the chord now. I feel relieved but I will always carry this scar. What was just two month relationship that wasn't right has become a life long lesson. I just hope I can trust again
Author Hurting123 Posted September 26, 2011 Author Posted September 26, 2011 Am I allowed to post a photo that is already public to people.. of her. To show everyone the face of evil!! Haha
sun_moon Posted September 26, 2011 Posted September 26, 2011 It's sad and pathetic what she did to you. I am going to say what is plainly obvious and a true gift to you, thank goodness it was only after knowing her for two months and not much more. There are people on here suffering from deceptions, lies, infidelity after being with their partner for years. Wow what a bullet you dodged. I congratulate you and say good riddance to her my friend. keep your head up, you will be fine soon enough. I understand the scar. I once was in a situation where I was dating this man for a few months, HE wanted commitment, he wanted this and that, soon after his behaviors changed and his stories became more cock eyed. One day I got a stupid text ending the new relationship, I was shocked to say the least. One week later I get a call from his girlfriend that was with him for a year. Yes I was the other woman, I was shocked, disgusted, and mortified. Biggest blow to my trust with people....horrible lesson = lifetime scar.
Author Hurting123 Posted September 27, 2011 Author Posted September 27, 2011 Yeh I know it was only 2 months. I didn't feel like I had lost the love of my life or anything like that. I'm grounded enough to know that. But at the same time I really did like her alot for the first time in years I was very excited. It's the idea that I was played for a fool that hurts. To think I kissed her at the airport and said goodbye. To know that I waited like a school boy while she was away. Excited to receive an email. Ahhhh. To think I sat around for two weeks after she returned to confess to a drunken kiss. Wondering whether I was too harsh on her. The truth was devastating to hear and I know I'm suppose to be the guy and be a little stronger and say it was only 2 months. I know I dodged the biggest bullet ever but it did graze me. He he And never an apology. Oh well. At least I'm not wondering like before. The roof has fallen and it's just clean up and healing time for me now.
Author Hurting123 Posted October 14, 2011 Author Posted October 14, 2011 Update Well it's been a month. I'm feeling ok.. Moved on from this massive horrible disaster. Tried to forget this horrible girl. I found out recently that after her massive bender she ended up back with her ex boyfriend. And the very very funny thing is that they have both now just entered a reality tv show together as a couple. It's a very famous show. I wish I could say but I don't want to break any privacy rules. I can't believe the whole nation is now going to watch these two as a couple and only me and a couple of friends will ever know who she really is. Ive decided to have a big party for the airing of the first show. Balloons popcorn and the whole works. We"re all going to cheer that mandated on. Do I resent her...? Not anymore. I sent her a message to say good luck and take care. I guess I feel so much better that she is back with her ex. It makes sense.
B_55 Posted October 14, 2011 Posted October 14, 2011 Update Well it's been a month. I'm feeling ok.. Moved on from this massive horrible disaster. Tried to forget this horrible girl. I found out recently that after her massive bender she ended up back with her ex boyfriend. And the very very funny thing is that they have both now just entered a reality tv show together as a couple. It's a very famous show. I wish I could say but I don't want to break any privacy rules. I can't believe the whole nation is now going to watch these two as a couple and only me and a couple of friends will ever know who she really is. Ive decided to have a big party for the airing of the first show. Balloons popcorn and the whole works. We"re all going to cheer that mandated on. Do I resent her...? Not anymore. I sent her a message to say good luck and take care. I guess I feel so much better that she is back with her ex. It makes sense. That's awesome, I'm glad you are doing good.
Chi townD Posted October 14, 2011 Posted October 14, 2011 What privacy rules! It's a TV show with multiple contestants and is broadcasted to the general public nationally and internationally. I just want to know so I know which show not to watch.
Dblock10 Posted October 14, 2011 Posted October 14, 2011 read your story and felt horrible. but then maybe good to :S i will explain why i had been with my ex for 6-7 months and we broke up cause she was off to travel america oz, thailand etc for 6 months! she basically wanted to be single and i was no longer part of the picture so she didnt want to continue it with me . so yeah, we never gave it a try at a LDR and she admitted to having two long distance relationships in the past that didnt work due to communication (how she is poor) anyway, at least i dont really have to worry about her being trueul to me etc as she can do what she likes now and its good i dont have to worry about where she is or what she is doing, just plain ignorance can be bliss. yeah it hurts in the sense that i would rather not think about getting screwed by other guys but thats life and she had been around a little before i was with her, so put 2 and 2 together.. she even said, how if you are with someone then you act differently around new people that you meet what you can and cant act like and she doesnt want to feel that way, yet "its not because i will be getting with loads of people".... right.. i cant believe yours treated you this way though and you dodged a horrible outcome. its sad how you waited for her though but i am glad your friend told you about her antics. are you still a friend with her on fb. sounds like you where a massive rebound i am afraid to say
Author Hurting123 Posted October 15, 2011 Author Posted October 15, 2011 I removed her from my Facebook the night she supposedly confessed to kissing someone. There is no doubt in my mind that I was a massive rebound. The holiday must have only accelerated the outcome of what probably never would have lasted obviously. I'm not depressed about it at all. But I'm scarred by it in the way a car accident scars you. This is one big massive soap opera. Her boyfriend is sleeping with my coworker aswell. I don't live in a small town either. It's ridiculous. What goes around comes around. But at the same time she is cheating on him too I believe with a well known football player (who also has a long term girlfriend) I know this tv show will probably make her marginally famous. She will no doubt get opportunities for magazine covers after this. I wish I could reveal the person and put her photo up but I'm worried that might get me into trouble. I wish everyone could know. The last thing she said to me when I confronted her was "get over it and f$@k off" No apology. This was a girl who up until that moment seemed like a really sweet caring person. That scarred me for sure.
EgoJoe Posted October 15, 2011 Posted October 15, 2011 Keep your head held high, you did good and let her off easy.
Author Hurting123 Posted October 15, 2011 Author Posted October 15, 2011 If anyone wants a picture of a girl I know. Message me and I'm happy to show you
sadprincess Posted October 15, 2011 Posted October 15, 2011 good ridden to her.....she sounds like a disease....and STD disease to be exact. if she likes to be the easy girl that guys uses....let her. i wonder what its like to have guys use me for ONLY sex. eventually, she'll feel like a loser she is.
leftfordead2 Posted October 15, 2011 Posted October 15, 2011 If anyone wants a picture of a girl I know. Message me and I'm happy to show you Which reality TV show is it?
Buttercup84 Posted October 15, 2011 Posted October 15, 2011 I'm dying to know which show haha . Sorry about your pain , but you need a girl with more class .
Dblock10 Posted October 15, 2011 Posted October 15, 2011 yeah man she only said that cause she was in the wrong and felt bad, so had no leg to stand on. is it a uk show? big brother? you wont get into trouble. post it!
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