lovesickpuppy Posted September 26, 2011 Posted September 26, 2011 Okay, so this is my first time posting here and sorry to gibber on but I'll give you the background information: We started going out 2 and a half years ago, around May last year, he finished me by text completely out of the blue, we stayed friends, turned into FWB he messed me around a lot, lied about getting with other girls, and in January this year we got back together. After getting back together he told me he loved me all along and just didn't think he could take the arguing. I accepted this and we moved forward. We went on holiday together for 2 weeks in July, everything is fine up until 4 weeks ago, he started ignoring me, being hot one minute and cold the next and all of a sudden last weekend he dumped me by saying 'I don't think we're working, but we can still be best friends, come visit me any time' I begged and pleaded with him, to no avail so, I began to ignore him, 2 days later I get a missed call off him, I text him asking why, and he told me he did it by accident? This confuses me because firstly, he dumped me, why keep my number? Secondly...how the hell do you call someone by accident, he must have been hovering over my name? I didn't reply and again gave him no contact until Thursday, he got in touch with me saying 'I hope you're okay, if you're ever around come see me' followed by another missed call. I chose to ignore both and heard nothing until last night. Another accidental missed call and I wasn't going to reply but I caved and asked why..apparently he'd meant to call his friend - now his friends name begins with 'S'...my name begins with 'D' how do you accidentally call me?? I then found out after logging onto his facebook (I know I shouldn't but he didn't change his password) and he was speaking to a friend saying how a girl had text him saying 'Did you go out tonight xxxx' he said that he was confused as to why she had text, replied but didn't flirt because he finds her annoying...to this his friend said she's good looking and he replied with 'fair enough but she was probably drunk'. Finding all of this out I completely caved in, telling him I missed him but he obviously had better girls falling for him (hinting at the conversation he had with his friend) He replied with 'Why after ingoring me for so long you now start an argument? I don't have time for this' I replied apologising and have received nothing back My question is, do you think he still loves me, do you think I still stand a chance? Or do you think him and this other girl could turn into something, even though he finds her annoying? It's breaking my heart :/ Have I ruined all the progress I made with no contact now? Or is there still hope if I continue no contact? PLEASE HELP ME GUYS!!!
january2011 Posted September 26, 2011 Posted September 26, 2011 I think that there are some couples who, no matter where they are or who they've been with during the intervening time, end up coming back to each other. There's a certain romanticism in believing that you were "meant to be." The reality for most is that when you do get together it never works for very long. As in your case. I'm sorry, based on the information you've posted, I don't think this guy really wants to be with you. You are his back up while he looks for something better. I think that you need to continue NC so that you have time to heal rather than use it as a means to get him back.
DenumChkn Posted September 26, 2011 Posted September 26, 2011 Sheesh, why do all the girls posting on these forums want to get back with some douche bag? Go NC and don't respond to anything he says and let yourself heal completely to the point you are indifferent to his existence. Date other guys, finding one better than this loser shouldn't be too much of a task.
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