Found out girlfriend is looking at and posting w4w ads

[dsulmnl]

Alright, I'll try to make this short. I live with my girlfriend and we just celebrated our 2 year anniversary. I was on her computer the other day (not snooping), typed in something in the browser and I noticed a few craigslist w4w casual encounters ads in the history.

 

This obviously made me a little curious so I started looking at her history and saw that she posted an ad of her own while I was out of town a couple weeks ago. It said something to the effect of "I've been thinking about being with a woman again, must be discreet, etc." and she gave a brief description of herself.

 

Being that I was gone I have no idea if anything came of this, also I didn't see anything showing that she was looking for another guy. So because she was looking for a fling with a woman I don't know how to think of this...I mean is it cheating? I guess but I don't feel nearly as betrayed as I would if she was looking at/for another man.

 

Basically I'm just looking for some advice, never dealt with anything like this and I don't know what to think of it. Should I bring it up with her? If so, what would be the best approach? For other guys: would you end the relationship if you found out about something like this?

[Vanessa-Anne]

Bring it up with her. Just because its the same sex doesn't make it ok. You need an explanation before making a decision really. Unless you would be ok with an open type relationship. Id believe they would be hard, it is very easy to become jealous.

Edited September 25, 2011 by Vanessa-Anne

[Bryanp]

If your wife saw you were trying to hook up with another man for a sexual encounter behind her back, do you think she would think it was cheating? Of course she would. Clearly she has done this previously since she said she was looking to do it again. My friend you can pick up STD's from anyone.

 

The fact that she wanted to do engage in a sexual encounter behind your back and not tell you is clearly cheating. At this point you know longer have an honest relationship with her. You are making a huge mistake by burying your head about this and also risking your health. In addition, the fact that she was not honest about this with you shows her respect for you and your relationship has diminished. If you do not respect yourself then who will?

[Osiris1234]

Demand a explination. it is cheating. Also if your up for it, tell her your ok with it ONLY if you can watch or if you can join in.