BlindRage Posted September 25, 2011 Posted September 25, 2011 (edited) I asked my ex out and she said yes. I don't know if she thought I meant go out with me as a friend but I meant it as a date. Regardless I'm going to take it as a date. What type of place should I take her out to? As in dinner and entertainment As for a budget, with her, I don't have any. So money isn't an issue, suggestions??? Edited September 25, 2011 by BlindRage
Dark Phoenix Posted September 25, 2011 Posted September 25, 2011 go to a fun casual place (mini golf, driving range, batting cages, fair, carnival, ect) and while there just have fun. Don't treat it as a date because you will add pressure to the situation. After your fun place change venues to a different fun place for a short time, then do a nice (but casual) dinner. Then bring her home. If at any time you feel like she isn't having fun then cut the "date" short by finishing up at your current venue and telling her you have somewhere to be. It's better to cut the "date" short before it goes completely south than it is to ride it out and expect to make progress later on. Good luck.
Author BlindRage Posted September 25, 2011 Author Posted September 25, 2011 So I e-mailed her about it and telling her I'm excited. Well she hasn't e-mailed me back. I'm nervous now that she might have changed her mind on me.
IfiKnewThen Posted September 28, 2011 Posted September 28, 2011 any word blindrage. i am rooting for u in any direction
Author BlindRage Posted September 28, 2011 Author Posted September 28, 2011 any word blindrage. i am rooting for u in any direction She replied at night. The next day we started e-mailing and I told her what I felt for her. She said that we can hang out but as friends. I told her that I can't be near her and not kiss her or hold her. She suggested that we don't talk anymore and she hopes I find someone who I can love. OUCH!!! It hurt to hear her say that. I told her bye and thats what happened. I won't be seeing her or hearing from her. She seems to have made up her mind regarding me. I'm not going to stick around and just be "friend-zoned". Theres no point in talking to her any further from here on out. Thanks for your support IfiKnewThen, this isn't the ending I wanted but an ending non-the-less.
Queen of Hearts 10 Posted September 28, 2011 Posted September 28, 2011 This is crazy to hear about ! How much more can you take ? I hate the leavers that give a little, and then pull back ! How are you doing ? I hope you can close the door and find a new little snake ! Lol! Queen of Hearts
IfiKnewThen Posted September 28, 2011 Posted September 28, 2011 i am sorry to hear about that blindrage. i am a romantic and beyond that....just wish love and the ending we want would work out. but sometimes they change so much. they are not actually the person we love...but rather the old them is the one we are still in love with. it takes a very certain kind of person to remain friends...and POSSIBLY (and that is slight) it can work out if youre friends. i understand your concept though of the "friends zone". you dont want to be a brother..or friend...you want a romantic connection again. i read a book called: how to get your lover back, (cant recall the authors name off hand) actually its real interesting...and if you read it , you would see it takes a certain person to hang in there like that. honestly sometimes becoming platonic friends again, like you were in the beginning can work out for some. the logical reasons for this are in the book and it made sense to me. its the exception not the rule. but sometimes it is the only way back to them if there were a chance at all. but it involves 2 mature people and very special circumstances. but she sounds like shes not the one for that. i wanted to be friends...they didnt. and at this point i would just like an ending...i can live with. its long over ...but i still wish there was a better ending. good ending do make better beginnings. we cant carry the baggage of the old into any new situation. yes lessons learned but not.....unresolved business and hang up and wounds. they need to heal, proper. anyway, i dont remember your back story, but i remember you and the pain you suffered. you have come a long way and i still say....that even though you opened your heart up to her and put it on the line again in a sense....you have the advantage of knowing you tried everything humanly possible. so many say...i should have said i love you. i wish i tried again. and they never tried and live in regret. you tried. you did all you could. there is no shame in what you professed to her or did for yourself. it took courage and guts and you are actually living your life , not according to how she will react but rather that you can be you. to me there is something so comforting in that. and it really speaks, that you ARE still in control. i know she is the love of your life.......but not of your lifetime. there is still more to come and i will it will come your way. heck the last person i said that too here on LS met someone and got married. i hope the same for you someday and i know its around the bend. do not give up. i have had set backs but we have to all of us, go back to our techniques and do it one day at a time. and it helps to pray too. it does. and of course, believe....
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