lilmisscheerful Posted September 25, 2011 Posted September 25, 2011 I've recently started online dating. I'm in the process of completing guided communication with three guys on E-Harmony and have been talking to a couple of others via Matchaffinity. I'm also trying to arrange a date with a guy I met speed dating. I realise not all of these may actually result in dates, but I'm very busy with work and other things for the next couple of weeks, so wondered what the best way forward was in terms of staggering dates. It's hard to gauge how much interest I'd receive online so wasn't quite sure how many guys to add to favourites/wink at etc.
Author lilmisscheerful Posted September 26, 2011 Author Posted September 26, 2011 Suggesting coffee dates maybe? Then I could fit some in during my lunchbreak if they work near me.
oaks Posted September 26, 2011 Posted September 26, 2011 If you actually want to meet some people then you need to make the time in your busy schedule to do that! Lunch is fine, if they work near enough to you to fit it in to both your lunch breaks.
Author lilmisscheerful Posted September 26, 2011 Author Posted September 26, 2011 It wasn't just the time aspect it was more to know how many people I should be talking to at any one point. It's tempting to send off lots of e-mails but the reality is I can only realistically see 2-3 people a week. So it's about time management too.
Conscience Posted September 26, 2011 Posted September 26, 2011 Why have limits ? I would say as many as you can handle! Think that 80% of those dates will end up beeing a waste of time.... that beeing said the more the better ?
oaks Posted September 26, 2011 Posted September 26, 2011 It wasn't just the time aspect it was more to know how many people I should be talking to at any one point. It's tempting to send off lots of e-mails but the reality is I can only realistically see 2-3 people a week. So it's about time management too. Not everyone you email will email you back, and not everyone who emails you back will end up going on a date with you, so even if you can manage to meet 2-3 people a week you can contact more than that if you wish. Of course, you also need some time for those emails and perhaps phone calls as well. If you've only just started online dating, start slowly.
Beachgirl8 Posted September 26, 2011 Posted September 26, 2011 This is the same problem I was having last week. It's exhausting and confusing to meet more than 2 a week in my opinion. The solution I got from asking this question on LS was to temporarily hide my profile, sort through the ones I initially started talking to, and then put the profile back up and do it again. I emailed with about 20 guys, gave my # to 5, met 2, eliminated everyone and am now preparing for round 2. Good luck!
oaks Posted September 26, 2011 Posted September 26, 2011 It's exhausting and confusing to meet more than 2 a week in my opinion. I agree. I went on 3 first dates in the last week, but I couldn't keep up that pace (not that I can find 12 people a month who want to go on a date anyway). Also, I'm bored of my own small-talk by the time I've heard myself say it for the third time in a week. That's definitely not a good sign. I think one of those three is interested in a second date - need to confirm tomorrow.
Beachgirl8 Posted September 26, 2011 Posted September 26, 2011 I agree. I went on 3 first dates in the last week, but I couldn't keep up that pace (not that I can find 12 people a month who want to go on a date anyway). Also, I'm bored of my own small-talk by the time I've heard myself say it for the third time in a week. That's definitely not a good sign. I think one of those three is interested in a second date - need to confirm tomorrow. Good for you! I hope the second date goes well. I totally agree with the small talk thing. I get so bored with my own stories and answering the same questions over and over. It's like the movie Groundhog Day but with dating.
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