Wesker Posted September 25, 2011 Posted September 25, 2011 If this is true, I have a long way to go. Some of you may know my backstory. Just check out my past threads if you don't. I keep asking myself how can I forgive someone that just up and quits on me? Just completely lived a lie for almost a year, and not even give a damn for the 8 years we had together? How do I forgive someone who says "I love you forever", and that "You're the greatest guy ever" yet at the same time she was resenting me, and having her eye set on someone else? I get breakups happen. Sometimes it's not meant to be. Hell, I'll even make a case that dumping someone is almost justified, in a last resort option when nothing can be worked out. But in my case, it just seems like all my effort, giving 100% to her, going above and beyond so many times was all for naught. That she didn't even try to at least talk to me is so frustrating. I know I have my flaws. I can admit that there were things I did, or didn't do, that could have been done better. I can't change what happened, but only learn from it. I do know that during our 8 years together, I gave 100%, and that if there was a problem, I would never just quit, and up n walk away. Do I have to forgive in able to move on?
jeff2321 Posted September 25, 2011 Posted September 25, 2011 All you can do is move on and learn to forgive them and have appreciation for their happiness in the future. You can forgive but never forget. If she quit on you, then you have no choice but to move on. You at some point need to deal with the hurt and come to a point where you can forgive and let go of it. I think I'm finally at the stage of forgiving my ex for leaving and also forgiving myself for what I did wrong too. If this is true, I have a long way to go. Some of you may know my backstory. Just check out my past threads if you don't. I keep asking myself how can I forgive someone that just up and quits on me? Just completely lived a lie for almost a year, and not even give a damn for the 8 years we had together? How do I forgive someone who says "I love you forever", and that "You're the greatest guy ever" yet at the same time she was resenting me, and having her eye set on someone else? I get breakups happen. Sometimes it's not meant to be. Hell, I'll even make a case that dumping someone is almost justified, in a last resort option when nothing can be worked out. But in my case, it just seems like all my effort, giving 100% to her, going above and beyond so many times was all for naught. That she didn't even try to at least talk to me is so frustrating. I know I have my flaws. I can admit that there were things I did, or didn't do, that could have been done better. I can't change what happened, but only learn from it. I do know that during our 8 years together, I gave 100%, and that if there was a problem, I would never just quit, and up n walk away. Do I have to forgive in able to move on?
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