chuggingalong Posted September 25, 2011 Posted September 25, 2011 So we ran into each other at the lounge last night and she was being friendly. Last time we spoke I asked her to not ever contact me, and let's just go our on ways in life. I told her to not even check up on me through text because I would be fine. I know this can sound harsh, but I really loved her and at the time, every text was giving me hope. Fast forward to last night (about 6 or 7 months later) I see her at a lounge for a mutual friend's party and she kept coming over to ask me how I was. It was almost redundant because she kept wanting to know how I was and how everything in my life was. I didn't ignore her but I didn't go out of my way to see how she was doing. At one point I was seating down and watching other people dance, and she kinda pushed me over with her leg and sat on the corner of the seat next to me and continued asking me about my life and how I was doing. I thought to myself 'what the hell?' My question is why would she act this way, if someone had told me to cut all contact with them at the most I would only be cordial with the other person, not care to hear about their life. Have any ladies here ever done that with their ex bfs? I would have imagined that most people would simply keep it at a hi and bye.
jordjones Posted September 25, 2011 Posted September 25, 2011 You've gone hardcore no contact for a good period of time. In doing such, you have flipped the script in her eyes. She might not want to get back with you, but she is extremely interested in you and has great respect for your sticking with no contact. It sounds like you played it cool at the party, which just makes you come across as more mysterious and attractive.
Author chuggingalong Posted September 26, 2011 Author Posted September 26, 2011 You've gone hardcore no contact for a good period of time. In doing such, you have flipped the script in her eyes. She might not want to get back with you, but she is extremely interested in you and has great respect for your sticking with no contact. It sounds like you played it cool at the party, which just makes you come across as more mysterious and attractive. That's what I was thinking jord! It seems really weird for someone to just be all warm after you tell them not to talk to them. At the end of the night, I was going around saying goodbye to everyone. When I got to my ex I gave her kind of a half ass hug, and I felt her trying to hang on just a tad longer. I pulled back looked at her and said, "It was nice seeing you again," and walked away. I wasn't rude to her at all. Since being apart from my ex, I have put on A LOT of muscle, got a great job, went back to school to finish up, and I ride a sports bike (I was talking about it a lot during the relationship). She seemed pretty amazed about all of these things. I was kinda like it was whatever. Anyone else? I really would like some feedback guys and gals!
EgoJoe Posted September 26, 2011 Posted September 26, 2011 You were a man about it. It seems like you even handled her attempts to get you to melt like butter well. The problem with this is whether or not she tries to talk to you and if it's always an egotistical game as opposed to a serious opening up to reconcile thing. You could probably get her in the sack easily but I imagine you want more than that.
RIO5 Posted September 27, 2011 Posted September 27, 2011 Man, jordjones was on POINT!!! I couldnt have said it better myself. Playing hard to get and being mysterious is what a lot of women like...you were a challenge to her. But why werent you at the bar flirting with other women so she could see what she's missing? That would have ate her up even more!! The fact that you werent all over her bothered her. Let her keep on missing what she had...
Author chuggingalong Posted September 27, 2011 Author Posted September 27, 2011 Man, jordjones was on POINT!!! I couldnt have said it better myself. Playing hard to get and being mysterious is what a lot of women like...you were a challenge to her. But why werent you at the bar flirting with other women so she could see what she's missing? That would have ate her up even more!! The fact that you werent all over her bothered her. Let her keep on missing what she had... I wasn't flirting with other women because it was my closest friends going away party and I wanted to focus on her. But here's the REALLY cool thing, I was just dancing and enjoying myself SO much that other girls outside my group wanted to dance with me because they saw I was having a blast (even though I was dancing by myself). My ex was looking smoking hot, yet she only stood on the side. She's a really GOOD dancer and only dance with my friend for like 20s then stopped and stood on the side again. That's when she got a drink and sat down next to me and started talking to me again.
olivec Posted September 27, 2011 Posted September 27, 2011 So we ran into each other at the lounge last night and she was being friendly. Last time we spoke I asked her to not ever contact me, and let's just go our on ways in life. I told her to not even check up on me through text because I would be fine. I know this can sound harsh, but I really loved her and at the time, every text was giving me hope. Fast forward to last night (about 6 or 7 months later) I see her at a lounge for a mutual friend's party and she kept coming over to ask me how I was. It was almost redundant because she kept wanting to know how I was and how everything in my life was. I didn't ignore her but I didn't go out of my way to see how she was doing. At one point I was seating down and watching other people dance, and she kinda pushed me over with her leg and sat on the corner of the seat next to me and continued asking me about my life and how I was doing. I thought to myself 'what the hell?' My question is why would she act this way, if someone had told me to cut all contact with them at the most I would only be cordial with the other person, not care to hear about their life. Have any ladies here ever done that with their ex bfs? I would have imagined that most people would simply keep it at a hi and bye. You were like me my ex gf would still text me and stuff and give me false hope until i had enuff and just stuck with no contact. It hurt alot for awhile which included me drinking wayy too much to mask the pain. Eitherway you handled the situation with her perfectly. You showed her your better than her.
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