rubberball Posted September 25, 2011 Posted September 25, 2011 we went our own ways a month ago, she finally is getting around to getting the last of her stuff from my house. she text me yesterday asking when she could come I said today, and she said great. I asked what time she would get here and she said she didnt know that she had to talk to her bf, get a truck, and guys to move stuff. she said she would tell me today. She did offer for me to leave her a key (she use to have one) if I would be out. I said no to that. she still hasnt told me when she will be here and I dont want to sit around waiting on her. should I text and ask? just go about my business? I would really like the stuff to be gone, so I can go as much NC as I can, we work together. what do I do?
TheDovic Posted September 25, 2011 Posted September 25, 2011 Dude don't put yourself through this. Text and ask what time she's calling then get out of the house!!!
Author rubberball Posted September 25, 2011 Author Posted September 25, 2011 I asked what time she was coming and she said she couldnt find anyone to help her, that she would be gone all afternoon. She suggested we do it later in the week. I am tempted to just put all her stuff outside in my carport and tell her to have someone come and get it. This is the 3rd time she has canceled coming to get her stuff. How can I force it to happen?
immitable Posted September 25, 2011 Posted September 25, 2011 sound like you giys have some unresolved issues. who broke up with whom? her mentioning her bf sounds like she is trying to see if you would be jealous.
Author rubberball Posted September 25, 2011 Author Posted September 25, 2011 I cant box it, its big stuff, a bed, a desk... stuff like that. I guess she did, technically. I told her I didn't want to be around her if she continued to act the way she was. She was being forwards towards this other guy. The next week she went away for the weekend with him, "as friends" and I wouldn't take care of her dogs for her. She was mad that I wouldnt help her. the last couple weeks the only talking we have done is her picking up a few things that were outside my house, getting my name off the cable bill and this other stuff that was inside. her saying he was coming was funny... but then she says she couldnt find anyone to help? Really, she and he could move the stuff out just list she and I moved it in, he has a pickup... but wont help?
TheDovic Posted September 25, 2011 Posted September 25, 2011 Maybe she's testing you to see how you'll react i.e. saying she's coming for her stuff but not doing it. It's possible she doesn't want to lose the psychological attachment of having a reason to see you i.e. collecting her stuff. Plus mentioning the new bf could be trying to make you jealous. Alternatively she might not care at all, who knows??? Either way, don't act like it's a big deal at all. Best case scenario this makes you look attractive because you don't need her. Worst case scenario, she doesn't care, but at least you keep your pride and dignity!
Author rubberball Posted September 25, 2011 Author Posted September 25, 2011 she might be doing that, we were best friends for 6 years before we got into a relationship and her getting her stuff really does end everything. the gotcha is, she just moved in a few months ago right down the street, and we work together. I am trying to give her every chance to get her stuff but i really want it gone. I think it will help me deal with everything a lot better when all the strings are cut.
EgoJoe Posted September 25, 2011 Posted September 25, 2011 I know you have a friend with a truck or have one yourself. Take care of this today. Drop it off wherever she lives bite the bullet and buy a tarp to cover it outside or whatever if you're worried about rain. Cut the ties! You will feel soooo much better!
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