ziggue Posted September 25, 2011 Posted September 25, 2011 I have been going out with this guy for like about two months now. He had even invited me away on get away together while he was on a Business trip for a weekend during this time as well. Now. Barely hear from him. I am pretty much initiating most the texts. He has also cancelled two dates as well. The first one was because of he's Grandma being sick and admitted to Hospital (know that one was true because our mutual friend brought that up without me even mentioning it). Second one was because of a work mate getting injured. He had to help him out with that. I called him out on canceling again. Saying 'don't pull this bull**** on me if it is not true. If you are not interested just say so' he says he would not have asked me out if he was not interested. He organised our date remember? The guy is very busy with work, uni and Grandma being sick. He barely rings and texts first. He says he will call and this has been like the second time he has not now. He usually does follow through with it but now it just does not. Since he got back from Brisbane. In the last two weeks. I have only seen him twice. He does reply to my messages though. Message like 9:30pm on a Sunday night. He did bring over Ice Cream for us and a Dvd for us to watch though the last time. Have a few Dvd's of he's still at my place, even now. It has been about a week now and we have not hung out with him. He has replied to my messages but has not called me back. This is doing my head in. Not knowing what is going on. He has never said he was not interested either. I am so confused.
Author ziggue Posted September 25, 2011 Author Posted September 25, 2011 It seriously does not feel like this guy is making any effort and it hurts. Should I delete him off my Facebook?
torn_curtain Posted September 25, 2011 Posted September 25, 2011 (edited) Are you in an exclusive relationship? That wasn't clear from your post. You have two options 1. Call him up and tell him to be straight with you. Don't be a bitch about it. You were too aggressive about him canceling the second time, which ended up looking weak since you still saw him again after your outburst. Be polite but firm. Say, "Straight up it doesn't seem like you're putting much effort in. I initiate almost everything and we've barely seen each other. Am I right in assuming you're no longer interested?" If he's at all evasive I would say, "It's clear that you're not interested in an actual relationship with me. I deserve better treatment than this. Take care." 2. Cut all contact with him now without formally ending things. Delete his phone number, facebook, etc. I find it easier if I make a formal end of things because it's harder to go back, but everyone is different. Whatever you do, don't linger in limbo any more wondering if he'll call you. Make a definitive move and don't look back. Edited September 25, 2011 by torn_curtain
Author ziggue Posted September 25, 2011 Author Posted September 25, 2011 Yes we are in an exclusive relationship as far as I know. I was speaking to a close mate of he's and she says he has not been seeing anyone else since we have been together.
torn_curtain Posted September 25, 2011 Posted September 25, 2011 Yes we are in an exclusive relationship as far as I know. I was speaking to a close mate of he's and she says he has not been seeing anyone else since we have been together. That doesn't necessarily mean he thinks of the relationship as exclusive. Unless you've discussed it, you don't really know. Have you ever discussed the status of your relationship? Does he call you/introduce you to others as his girlfriend?
Author ziggue Posted September 25, 2011 Author Posted September 25, 2011 Yes he has called me he's girlfriend in front of my friends and he's friends.
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