coltsfan1 Posted September 25, 2011 Posted September 25, 2011 I was given a phone number while out with friends last night. It was the waitress at the bar we where drinking at, I do not know her and she doesn't run in my circle of friends. I have two questions. 1. how long should I wait to get in contact with her. I was thinking next Tuesday. 2. Should I call or text? I think just texting could be viewed as me being to scared to just call. Any input from you gals would be appreciated! Thanks
Titania22 Posted September 25, 2011 Posted September 25, 2011 I was given a phone number while out with friends last night. It was the waitress at the bar we where drinking at, I do not know her and she doesn't run in my circle of friends. I have two questions. 1. how long should I wait to get in contact with her. I was thinking next Tuesday. 2. Should I call or text? I think just texting could be viewed as me being to scared to just call. Any input from you gals would be appreciated! Thanks No idea how long you should wait, i think call the sooner the better so she doesn't write you off. And you should call over texting, because texting can be ambiguous and weird.
Author coltsfan1 Posted September 25, 2011 Author Posted September 25, 2011 No idea how long you should wait, i think call the sooner the better so she doesn't write you off. And you should call over texting, because texting can be ambiguous and weird. I will call her tomorrow, thank you for the reply. I am new to the dating thing so I will give it a shot!
FrustratedStandards Posted September 25, 2011 Posted September 25, 2011 Just text her saying "Hey! It's the guy from the bar, you had slipped me your number? Anyways this is my cell. Take care!" That way she has a way to contact you. If things go well who knows! You can text her today thats fine. Because its not a desperate "omg im calling cuz u gave me ur number" but a casual "hey whats up" that doesn't imply a response.
Pierre Posted September 25, 2011 Posted September 25, 2011 For the love of God don't play games or follow silly rules. If she gave you her number she expects you to call. If you feel uneasy tell her you lost the play book and you don't remember whether you are suppose to call next day, next week or next month. In that way you can break the ice regarding stupid rules.
Author coltsfan1 Posted September 26, 2011 Author Posted September 26, 2011 In no way am I trying to play games just wondered what the ladies here felt about it. With my ex it just came natural, I just don't want to come across desperate or stalkerish. I just want to have a gal to hang out with and do fun things the rest of the year.
daphne Posted September 26, 2011 Posted September 26, 2011 Well, judging by the time you've posted, I guess you didn't pull the swingers thing where you called her the same night over and over again until she wanted nothing more to do with you. How about tomorrow if you're not busy? Just call her and casually see what she's up to and ask her out. Pretty simple. If you make her wait 4 days plus, things could go awry fairly quickly. Good luck.
Author coltsfan1 Posted September 26, 2011 Author Posted September 26, 2011 I will call her at lunch and see how the weekend was. Hopefully I can land a dinner date and see what goes from there.
KathyM Posted September 26, 2011 Posted September 26, 2011 I was given a phone number while out with friends last night. It was the waitress at the bar we where drinking at, I do not know her and she doesn't run in my circle of friends. I have two questions. 1. how long should I wait to get in contact with her. I was thinking next Tuesday. 2. Should I call or text? I think just texting could be viewed as me being to scared to just call. Any input from you gals would be appreciated! Thanks Call her tomorrow night and make a date for the weekend.
Kinder-Horror Posted September 26, 2011 Posted September 26, 2011 I'd say 1-2 days after you got her number. A call or text would not matter to me. Maybe you can text first and see if she engages and then call her to ask her if she wants to hang out next week. I am a weirdo who sometimes gets nervous to talk to new, new guys on the phone (i find the awkward before the first date conversation...well, awkward), so I prefer text. But I think most girls prefer actual calls.
rightfield Posted September 26, 2011 Posted September 26, 2011 I posted a question a while back to try and determine if women preferred to be called or sent a text. I found strong opinions both ways, but it sounded like women over the age of about 40 think that texting is rude at first. They expect a call. Younger women preferred a text because they don't like to talk on the phone that much. It wasn't actually that clear cut, but that's what I got from the answers. I'm 43, so I'm right on the break point, so I always ask that they prefer. In your case, she gave YOU her number, so you should be fine either way. I also 2nd Pierre's advice about the silly rules and guidelines. Have fun!
Author coltsfan1 Posted September 26, 2011 Author Posted September 26, 2011 Well I text her today after work. Wrote something along the lines of didn't want her to think I forgot about her and it would have been hard with her throwing herself at me all night, lol. I thought it was playful and with the dynamics of our conversation all night it was fitting. The whole night was both of us teasing the other and giving each other grief. Well we shall see how it goes. At least I am back in the game now!!!!
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