fitzgerald11 Posted September 25, 2011 Posted September 25, 2011 A while ago I met a girl who I was interested in but she lived in another state so we just began talking over Facebook. At first it was great, and I began to develop strong feelings for her in very little time. But things began to go south, with her seeming more and more distant. Not liking the way things were going, I decided to tell her how I felt. I told her that she was the most amazing girl I had ever met and things like that, and she basically said she didn't have the same feelings and didn't want to make an LDR. Because I could never imagine her just being a "friend" because the feelings I had for her don't go away for a long time, I said to her goodbye because any further talks would be awkward for me and I just didn't want that. Over the past month I have been recovering from it and things had been getting better. I found a girl I liked and who I'm pretty sure likes me, but I still thought of her everyday. Then today, she decides to ask how I have been and wants to make sure I'm OK. I understand that she may feel bad and she doesn't know how much it hurts for me to feel those feelings again, but how should I deal with this? I still have those strong feelings and part of me wants to beg to her while the other wants to just cut everything off with her. Worst part is she acts like nothing ever happened! I want to tell her: dont come back into my life unless your feelings change, but that seems harsh and childish. Its just so hard to remember and relive those feelings. Help me out here, because this really hurts right now.
Viking Posted September 25, 2011 Posted September 25, 2011 Last year, my girlfriend broke up with me, and it seemed like it was out of the blue. I should have seen it coming because we actually had a breakup discussion, in which I told her that if we ever broke up, I never wanted to see her again or to talk with her again. When we broke up, I followed through on this. I did not contact her in any way and went about my business pursuing other girls. SHE was the one who made contact with ME despite my stating that I did not want to talk to her again EVER. SO, it could be that this girl is actually coming back to you, as my GF contacted me after she saw me in a bar/dance club with another girl and when she tried to talk to me, I just ignored her. She contacted me under the guise of "seeing how I was doing" and "wanting to know what I was up to". Needless to say, I am very happy I did break silence and talk to her, but you never know until YOU act. It could be her coming back to you as you've given her enough space to decide what she wants, OR she could simply just want to say hi not comprehending the damage it could do to you.
Author fitzgerald11 Posted September 25, 2011 Author Posted September 25, 2011 Today I talked to her because I actually needed advice from a girl about how to deal with one of my friends who is having a really tough time and is down on his luck, and it was great to talk to her. Truly I don't know what you mean about me doing something about it. Didn't I already when I told her how I felt? I really don't know from which side she's coming from. I mean I don't know if she misses me and I gave her the space she needs or she just wants to say hi. It could be either one.
Author fitzgerald11 Posted September 26, 2011 Author Posted September 26, 2011 Anybody else? I have very little clue with how to proceed here
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