Does anyone ever stay together anymore?

[mike588]

What's going on these days, does anyone ever stay together anymore? By reading the threads here as well as friends, famiy, co workers etc. it seems like as soon as the honeymoon period ends or later ,when she/he isn't happy anymore they leave looking for true love.

 

It's sad that couples dont seem to want to try anymore,,to talk and try to work things out,,, were just disposable like trash leaving alot of us with broken hearts, emotionally damaged etc. especially if it's been a LTR.

 

What are we supposed to do?,,,, keep our heart under lock and key, afraid of giving them our love only for them to leave us later because they aren't "happy anymore".

 

Alot of us have given our hearts to the other and treat them so well then out of the blue, see ya,, I'm not happy anymore.

 

Granted there are some that do stay together forever,( a minority it seems) and some situations (cheating, physical abuse) are justified for leaving.

 

Just some thoughts.

Edited September 25, 2011 by mike588

[confusedandupset]

Heh, I've used the disposable statement a few times in the two serious relationships I've had (but I guess that should have been the red flag :]).

 

I think that relationships take a lot of work, and depending the emotional maturity of the person and the interest level will most likely dictate if a person is willing to stick it out. I'm sure if you'd speak to my ex about our relationship he'd tell you that he did everything to keep us together, and the girl I thought he had a thing for he kept minimal contact with her, even though she made a nickname for him, put hearts on everything she texted him, and called him love. Of course he never did anything to show me I could trust him after he tried to keep her a secret, and after he chased her for 6 mths whilst I begged him to take me back (the first time we broke up, for shame on me for taking him back). But he did "try", he just didn't actually "try". I was, as I am realizing, just a waiting room for him, so that when it finally dawned on her just how much she liked him he could be with her. For two years, he made me believe sweet nothings that he didn't feel, while secretly praying that she would pick him. Nothing like being second best, huh?

 

I think some people do stay it in for the long haul, but they wouldn't be posting it here. Lest they want to receive nasty messages of envy in return. But, some things just weren't meant to be, and really we should be grateful for that. That we didn't use any more of our time and disposable feelings :] on a person that wasn't planning to return them in the long run. Let them feel what it's like to be on the losing end of a relationship you worked hard to keep together. Let them know what it's like to beg and plead to deaf ears. To wait around for no gain. Whatever we experience is never an isolated incident, that's why so many people are posting about here. Who knows maybe someday I'll see Mrtaco complaining about ___ on here too, and then I'll smile in sweet serenity.