confused1515 Posted September 24, 2011 Posted September 24, 2011 Out of the blue I got a birthday text from the ex. After I got a friend request on Facebook...accepted whatever, not a big deal. Then my friend past away and the ex sent me a fb message saying how sorry he was about my loss. Then the next day I got a photo of a place we went on a trip together from him. I wrote back saying thanks...never heard back. Then about a week later, saw something funny and sent a pic to him....and then again nothing...not understanding why the contact after getting dumped or the lack of responses when he started talking to me and I responded...thoughts?
betterdeal Posted September 24, 2011 Posted September 24, 2011 It often happens. I wouldn't read too much into it. Until the time when you two can meet each other and feel pretty calm and normal at the same time, nothing substantial will come of it. We're all imperfect and a breakup is often quite not as clean cut as we'd like to think it would be, especially when there's lots of ways to send messages but not actually be with the other person. My advice is ... don't think about it too much and take steps to prevent these brain fart messages between you guys. Create a space between you.
M2155 Posted September 24, 2011 Posted September 24, 2011 Well if it was your birthday, that's not so uncommon. He remembered your birthday and then thought to add you on FB, don't take it too seriously. Facebook lets us "be friends" without actually having to put any effort into friendship. Nothing that you guys sent each other really warranted a response. When I've done stuff like that, I'm just saying we're cool. Stay casual FB friends if you are ok with that, but I wouldn't try to read anything more into it. If he really wants to talk he'll, he'll talk;)
Author confused1515 Posted September 24, 2011 Author Posted September 24, 2011 Definitely not looking too much into it....absolutely miss the ex, break up was very out of the blue. I was fine with the birthday and condolence message, it was the text with a pic of our last vacation spot with a caption that said happy place that through me a bit...just seemed like a bit of an intimate thing to do so sudden after a break up, even though I am sure he was just trying to make me feel better, because he knew how hard this death would impact me...I guess to me its just too soon for him to be doing this, seems a bit selfish on his part, you broke me...don't rush me into a friendship because it makes you feel better about your actions...and i just have a feeling that I will hear from him again that I just can't shake
M2155 Posted September 25, 2011 Posted September 25, 2011 You'll never know. Just because they walk out of your life doesn't mean they didn't care, he could have sent it thinking it would give you a happy memory during your time of grief. Or he could have been deleting pics from his phone and figured you may want it, or on the other hand he could be a jerk and want you to stay on his mind or ease his guilt with a friendly gesture. Don't fold, just try to forget about it.
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