Johnny85 Posted September 24, 2011 Posted September 24, 2011 WOW I actually managed to get a date with a cute girl whom I met online!!! Why the WOW? For my response rate is below 10%. She bailed on me twice, so third time is a charm. So this time she asked me out, and I proposed sushi; she accepted. Two hours later I got a text asking if I prefer having a coffee instead. I am European but live in the U.S., so I always assume that the guy pays. I would have treated her to dinner, so I am assuming that wanting to meet up for coffee isn't a financial reason. I am thinking that it has more to do with whether we click or not. In other words, having to sit in a restaurant with a stranger for an hour with someone you don't click with could be painful. haha Any advice?
madjac74 Posted September 24, 2011 Posted September 24, 2011 In other words, having to sit in a restaurant with a stranger for an hour with someone you don't click with could be painful. haha Any advice? It's excrutiating! My last online date I wanted to jab a fork in my eye. I actually considered hitting on the waitress just so the night wouldn't be a total loss. I think she understood that I was in a situation I really didn't want to be in.
Author Johnny85 Posted September 24, 2011 Author Posted September 24, 2011 ^That is so funny that you say that because it made me think of Murphy's Law: If something can go wrong, it will. I am not that pessimistic, but sometimes this definitely applies. I am nervous. I was hoping we would have gone to a restaurant so that I could have had a few drinks of sake to loosen the mood a little. At the same time, I try to keep in mind that dating is not really like going on a job interview. It's not about selling yourself, but rather about finding a connection with someone.
madjac74 Posted September 24, 2011 Posted September 24, 2011 ^ At the same time, I try to keep in mind that dating is not really like going on a job interview. It's not about selling yourself, but rather about finding a connection with someone. Exactly! It is hard on a first date but you really have to just be yourself. That is my problem with online dating Vs. meeting someone in person is that you can make all those judgements about your interest in someone when you meet them in person before you even get to a first date. When you go out with someone online you are making all these determinations about them "on the first date", if it isn't clicking you are just stuck there. But I must say I have met the most amazing woman ever thru online dating and I am still very much in love with her today. It was one of those first dates where we just hit it off immediately.
thatone Posted September 24, 2011 Posted September 24, 2011 we taking bets on how long before this guy makes a thread about how he got flaked on for the third time from the same girl? twice was too many, you should've disappeared after the first time.
oaks Posted September 24, 2011 Posted September 24, 2011 we taking bets on how long before this guy makes a thread about how he got flaked on for the third time from the same girl? twice was too many, you should've disappeared after the first time. Well, he can still cancel on her or just not turn up. Johnny85, you should read some of the other very recent threads in here, but to save you the trouble: Don't feel up her leg because it's inappropriate and she'll think you only want her for sex, but do make sure you kiss her so that she doesn't think that you aren't interested.
Author Johnny85 Posted September 24, 2011 Author Posted September 24, 2011 we taking bets on how long before this guy makes a thread about how he got flaked on for the third time from the same girl? twice was too many, you should've disappeared after the first time. LOL well I am willing to give her the benefit of the doubt. Good joke though.
Author Johnny85 Posted September 24, 2011 Author Posted September 24, 2011 Well, he can still cancel on her or just not turn up. Johnny85, you should read some of the other very recent threads in here, but to save you the trouble: Don't feel up her leg because it's inappropriate and she'll think you only want her for sex, but do make sure you kiss her so that she doesn't think that you aren't interested. Thanks for the advice Oaks; I will see how it goes and if there is a connection. hehe
thatone Posted September 24, 2011 Posted September 24, 2011 LOL well I am willing to give her the benefit of the doubt. Good joke though. and the burning question is why, when it's much more likely that she's just a head case?
Author Johnny85 Posted September 24, 2011 Author Posted September 24, 2011 and the burning question is why, when it's much more likely that she's just a head case? Well for we are both from Europe (living in the U.S.), love cats, workout, same degree, and live in the same city. I cannot assess her personality, but I will find out more tonight. Unfortunately that is one of the cons with online dating, as someone had mentioned earlier, the first date is where you really find out whether you're compatible. I will have to make a thread about that, too:cool::lmao: jk jk jk hahaha But I am really nervous!!!
january2011 Posted September 24, 2011 Posted September 24, 2011 You already know that you have some things in common and so a few easy topics of conversation. Just take it one step at a time and see how the conversation flows and if there's enough there for you to both want to see each other again. That's really all there is to it. Best of luck.
Author Johnny85 Posted September 24, 2011 Author Posted September 24, 2011 You already know that you have some things in common and so a few easy topics of conversation. Just take it one step at a time and see how the conversation flows and if there's enough there for you to both want to see each other again. That's really all there is to it. Best of luck. Thanks !! : - )
Author Johnny85 Posted September 25, 2011 Author Posted September 25, 2011 OMG I just got back home and the night went GREAT. I met a whole bunch of her friends and we went out together for 7 hours. At the end of the night, I drove her to her car and we kissed. Yayyy!!!! Wooo hooo! She is cute as a button, and I suppose there is a demand for prince William look a likes after all!! haha Just be yourself and don't try to impress is the best advice I got from this forum. I dated a girl for 4 years and now it makes sense why it didn't workout.
madjac74 Posted September 25, 2011 Posted September 25, 2011 OMG I just got back home and the night went GREAT. I met a whole bunch of her friends and we went out together for 7 hours. At the end of the night, I drove her to her car and we kissed. Yayyy!!!! Wooo hooo! She is cute as a button, and I suppose there is a demand for prince William look a likes after all!! haha Just be yourself and don't try to impress is the best advice I got from this forum. I dated a girl for 4 years and now it makes sense why it didn't workout. Congrats Johnny! You must be on cloud 9 about now. Keep us updated and best of luck
Casablanca Posted September 25, 2011 Posted September 25, 2011 OMG I just got back home and the night went GREAT. I met a whole bunch of her friends and we went out together for 7 hours. At the end of the night, I drove her to her car and we kissed. Yayyy!!!! Wooo hooo! She is cute as a button, and I suppose there is a demand for prince William look a likes after all!! haha Just be yourself and don't try to impress is the best advice I got from this forum. I dated a girl for 4 years and now it makes sense why it didn't workout. Awesome! Not much quite like that feeling after a successful first date!
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