canithappen Posted May 12, 2004 Posted May 12, 2004 I was just in the breaking up forum, now I'm in the coping. I just contacted my ex. I have to see him tomorrow when he drops off something for me. He basically said that he needs to focus on himself right now, and that I need to focus on me. That he broke up with me because he cares about me and that he was making me unhappy, and that I was making him unhappy. Which is true. The difference between us is that I agree we need time, but I'm willing to state right now that I'm willing to re-evaluate it in time. He said that he can't give me a difinitive answer, and that if I'm going to ask for one then the answer is no. He also said that he thinks I love him more than he loves me. Ouch. But, it also made me pretty angry, and I realized that he's not going to want me back. At least not anytime soon. We only broke up this weekend, and I am in so much pain, but I kept feeling like I was waiting for something. Now, I don't feel that way. I'm sure there's even more sucky days ahead, but I don't feel like I'm holding my breath any more. Any advise and encouragement is appreciated. I don't think I've ever hurt this much, but I also know that we weren't right for each other, at least not in this moment, but my stupid heart refuses to listen to me. I guess I am a bit of a romantic which is overpowering my realistic side. Thanks for letting me vent.
meanttolive4ever Posted May 12, 2004 Posted May 12, 2004 Originally posted by canithappen? I was just in the breaking up forum, now I'm in the coping. I just contacted my ex. I have to see him tomorrow when he drops off something for me. He basically said that he needs to focus on himself right now, and that I need to focus on me. That he broke up with me because he cares about me and that he was making me unhappy, and that I was making him unhappy. Which is true. The difference between us is that I agree we need time, but I'm willing to state right now that I'm willing to re-evaluate it in time. He said that he can't give me a difinitive answer, and that if I'm going to ask for one then the answer is no. He also said that he thinks I love him more than he loves me. Ouch. But, it also made me pretty angry, and I realized that he's not going to want me back. At least not anytime soon. We only broke up this weekend, and I am in so much pain, but I kept feeling like I was waiting for something. Now, I don't feel that way. I'm sure there's even more sucky days ahead, but I don't feel like I'm holding my breath any more. Any advise and encouragement is appreciated. I don't think I've ever hurt this much, but I also know that we weren't right for each other, at least not in this moment, but my stupid heart refuses to listen to me. I guess I am a bit of a romantic which is overpowering my realistic side. Thanks for letting me vent. i know how it feels...ive been waiting for almost 3 months. So iuno.
Girlie Posted May 12, 2004 Posted May 12, 2004 Im so sorry you are having to go through this. It really does suck when the pain is fresh and new. All you can do at this point is take things one day at a time. As hard as it seems right now, try not to focus on him so much and try to start focusing on you. Get out and do things you like, do nice things for yourself, etc. I think you said in a previous post that you were clingy in this relationship due to lack of self-esteem. Work on that, but do it for yourself and not in the hopes of getting him back. I know it's hard, but all you can do is move on with your life at this point. I wish you luck!!
meanttolive4ever Posted May 12, 2004 Posted May 12, 2004 Originally posted by Girlie Im so sorry you are having to go through this. It really does suck when the pain is fresh and new. All you can do at this point is take things one day at a time. As hard as it seems right now, try not to focus on him so much and try to start focusing on you. Get out and do things you like, do nice things for yourself, etc. I think you said in a previous post that you were clingy in this relationship due to lack of self-esteem. Work on that, but do it for yourself and not in the hopes of getting him back. I know it's hard, but all you can do is move on with your life at this point. I wish you luck!! thats what i was kind of trying to say.but i couldnt say it right..
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