immitable Posted September 24, 2011 Posted September 24, 2011 Broken up for 4 months. After 5 1/2 years of relationship. the whole time NC (except the first days when I begged and asked for a reason) no valid reasons except she had a gut feeling and no feelings for me. Sent me e-mail yesterday (one day before) to wish me happy birthday and all the best. I didn't reply, will do so eventually next week, maybe to wish her an early (hers is in november). Facebook situation: after she closed her wall for me but remained friends I blocked her as a friend. I am doing fine (ups and downs of course, like all of us), been working out, meeting friends, keeping busy, not in a mood to date really but it is getting better etc. Trying hard to forget it is going fine, keepig positive, life is good I think
futuregopher Posted September 24, 2011 Posted September 24, 2011 Happy birthday!! I hope you have the best day of the year!!! (so far, lol)
Author immitable Posted September 25, 2011 Author Posted September 25, 2011 Broken up for 4 months. After 5 1/2 years of relationship. the whole time NC (except the first days when I begged and asked for a reason) no valid reasons except she had a gut feeling and no feelings for me. Sent me e-mail yesterday (one day before) to wish me happy birthday and all the best. I didn't reply, will do so eventually next week, maybe to wish her an early (hers is in november). Facebook situation: after she closed her wall for me but remained friends I blocked her as a friend. Just wanted to know what do you guys make out of this contact of a "third kind"? Can't figure it out myself... thank you
M2155 Posted September 25, 2011 Posted September 25, 2011 What do you mean by "third kind"? If my ex had actually broken up with me instead of just disappear, I would have wished him a happy birthday. I really wanted to as it's a simple gesture and he knows I didn't forget or see it on facebook, but he's got somebody and I knew it wouldn't mean anything to him. If I were you, I would return the simple gesture for her birthday since she aknowledged yours. The facebook situation sounds perfectly normal. My thoughts were to do what she did because you don't want to cut the access completely. Your response was totally normal and healthy. For all she knows you went off of FB completely. Happy birthday and belated birthdays to all
Author immitable Posted September 25, 2011 Author Posted September 25, 2011 What do you mean by "third kind"? I jokingly meant an "alien" thanks for the best wishes
lonelynyc Posted September 25, 2011 Posted September 25, 2011 Don't do it. She coldly threw you to the side after over 5 years together. Unless you're leaving information out, the way she ended it sounds so incredibly disrespectful and insensitive. Despite her likely guilt-inspired email, you owe her NOTHING. My ex's birthday is coming up next month. The thing preventing me from contacting her to wish her a happy birthday is the memory of how miserable she made me on my birthday this past summer, towards the end of our relationship. They should get nothing from us.
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