Aurora8 Posted September 24, 2011 Posted September 24, 2011 Why would a guy say he doesn't like to kiss? This was during a great date at his house. Very honest, open, connected conversation, mutual interest and attraction. Get to the making out stage and started to notice something was off with the kissing. Kisses felt like he was holding back, no tongue, and once I noticed, it just started feeling empty (quite a bummer since it didn't jive with how well we were connecting otherwise). I ended up asking about it because it was so unusual to me. He said he just doesn't like to, though the word intimacy slipped out once, I didn't understand. Ended up feeling a sort of rejection. I like kissing a lot, it's what brings on the passion for me and I enjoy the intimacy of it.. Really surprised because I was expecting that part to go really well and include some of the sweet stuff like eye gazing etc. Ended up awkward after talking about it only seemed to make it more awkward. Anyone have insight or experience with this?
oaks Posted September 24, 2011 Posted September 24, 2011 Why would a guy say he doesn't like to kiss? Because he doesn't want to kiss you? (Sorry.)
Fondue Posted September 24, 2011 Posted September 24, 2011 Because he doesn't want to kiss you? (Sorry.) Or you know, he simply doesn't like kissing. Hell, I'm not too keen on it either.
oaks Posted September 24, 2011 Posted September 24, 2011 Yes, could be that, too. Aurora, have you kissed him before?
Elysian Powder Posted September 24, 2011 Posted September 24, 2011 Or maybe he had bad breath in the past and is self-conscious about it.
madjac74 Posted September 24, 2011 Posted September 24, 2011 People who don't like to kiss are likely just bad kissers and have probably been told this. I think really good kissing can be better than sex
Jynxx Posted September 24, 2011 Posted September 24, 2011 I think really good kissing can be better than sex If you're serious you're probably just terrible at sex. I like kissing, it's great as forplay or for saying hi or goodbye, but hourlong makeout sessions don't really appeal to me, and I assume it's the same for most adult men.
oaks Posted September 24, 2011 Posted September 24, 2011 I like kissing, it's great as forplay or for saying hi or goodbye, but hourlong makeout sessions don't really appeal to me, and I assume it's the same for most adult men. After an hour of kissing my lips get sore. Well, that used to be true. Haven't tested this in a while!
Beachgirl8 Posted September 24, 2011 Posted September 24, 2011 People who don't like to kiss are likely just bad kissers and have probably been told this. I think really good kissing can be better than sex I agree! If someone doesn't like kissing they are not doing it right. Making out is definitely on my top ten list of favorite activites.
madjac74 Posted September 24, 2011 Posted September 24, 2011 If you're serious you're probably just terrible at sex. I like kissing, it's great as forplay or for saying hi or goodbye, but hourlong makeout sessions don't really appeal to me, and I assume it's the same for most adult men. You assume wrong which could make you terrible at both also. It's even better when you are great at both and do them simultaneously!
Author Aurora8 Posted September 24, 2011 Author Posted September 24, 2011 Oaks, no we hadn't really kissed much before this. Leading up to it he even mentioned wanting to kiss me. And he did kiss me but he didn't KISS me. It was all closed mouth and.. Reserved? I never met a guy who said he didn't like kissing. I have this sense that it had to do with an intimacy issue, if that makes any sense. It felt so guarded. I really enjoy kissing, it's what gets me going and creates that close feeling and mood. After talking about it things were uncomfortable. All was great until this but I don't get the impression we get past the awkwardness now. He told me about trust issues and now his profile online disappeared right after this. Like maybe he realized he's scared or not ready...? I don't know.
betterdeal Posted September 24, 2011 Posted September 24, 2011 I'd go with the intimacy issues theory. Any which way, he doesn't like kissing, and you do. Sounds like a good time to call it a day and suggest you regroup if / when he's in a better state.
Feelin Frisky Posted September 24, 2011 Posted September 24, 2011 I think everyone has covered the likely so far. All I can say is I feel for ya. It had to be a bummer. There's nothing as freaking terrific as kissing (short of the other obvious sexual engagements). It's heavenly.
torn_curtain Posted September 24, 2011 Posted September 24, 2011 (edited) I'm not much of a kisser either. I prefer kissing sprinkled in with other forms of touch -- cuddling, face touching, eye locking, limb tangling. Straight up saliva exchanging for long periods of time without much else doesn't do much for me. It almost seems kind of anonymous? Like I forget who I'm kissing and become focused on the physical characteristics of their mouth. Odd, I know. Edited September 24, 2011 by torn_curtain
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