Indira1987 Posted September 24, 2011 Posted September 24, 2011 Hello everyone. i have so many questions in my head every day ... I had a boyfriend far away from my home country and the relationship lasted for 6 month only, it ended really bad (he broke up) and I went back home. We've been really in love both; he had much more relationship experiences and I never understood, because I only had one BF before him. So I already asked him in the relationship if he loved all of these girls and he said no only three of them. Now our breakup is 1,5 years ago and I still think about him everyday. A few weeks ago I found out he has a girlfriend for 1 year!!!! His new relationship is double as long as our has been and I haven't moved on at all??? :-( He must have met her 3 month or so after I left the country. Is that even possible that he loves her??? I mean I know he loved me. It all ended bad and I was trying to get back together so hard, which pushed him only further away but then on the day I was supposed to leave and we met to say goodbye he all of a sudden started crying (which he never ever did before in front of me) and said he loves me and kissed me! 4 month later in love again? is that possible? maybe I just don't want to believe it because I still love him. I feel like the biggest idiot on earth living in the past still while everyone has moved on. how do people do that...having so many relationships in short distances? do they love/d each partner? I don't judge anyone for that...I just can't understand cause I haven't experienced that. I met him and he was super special to me, and only now eventually I can IMAGINE that there might me someone new for me in the future...
TheDovic Posted September 24, 2011 Posted September 24, 2011 Unfortunately there's a good chance he does love her if they've been together for a year! Maybe you should speak to a therapist as I'm sure you don't want to feel like this any longer
Author Indira1987 Posted September 24, 2011 Author Posted September 24, 2011 thank you for the answer. i thought about speaking to a therapist...but I'm in another country from my home country again and I don't know how it would work with the insurance. do you think I wont feel like this after i spoke to a therapist? what can they do? i was once at a therapist years ago and in the end i didn't wanna go there anymore because i thought that he might think i'm just complaining about nothing. don't know if I'd feel like that again if i come there with lovesickness...
mike588 Posted September 25, 2011 Posted September 25, 2011 thank you for the answer. i thought about speaking to a therapist...but I'm in another country from my home country again and I don't know how it would work with the insurance. do you think I wont feel like this after i spoke to a therapist? what can they do? i was once at a therapist years ago and in the end i didn't wanna go there anymore because i thought that he might think i'm just complaining about nothing. don't know if I'd feel like that again if i come there with lovesickness... I too recommend talking to a therapist and no you won't be complaining about nothing! Smart/wise people seek out help, that's what their there for to help you and MANY people with relationship issues go. Don't feel like it's nothing because it is! If you see one just remember that they don't have a crystal ball and cant tell you your future or that they will be able to fix everything. They will help you look at the situation in a different way and bring some clarity to whats going on,, make suggestions, never telling you what you better do!! Try it atleast once,, I'll bet you can't wait to go back again. I'm going thur my own personal hell now,, I've gone and it has helped me alot,, I don't regret it!! Check with your insurance company.
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