californ Posted September 24, 2011 Posted September 24, 2011 So I started talking to this cute girl, asked her who she lived with. She said she first got an apartment with 2 guys she's known for years... but then 1 of the guys moved out a few years ago, so now it's just her + 1 guy. Never asked her if she was single. I get her #, start talking to her. Then I get an email from a guy who says, "I'm her ex-BF, just wanted to clarify that she's moving out of our shared apartment very soon. She's an awesome girl who will make someone happy, so please, feel free to go for her if you like her." WTF? She says her ex got my name cuz she mentioned me to their mutual friend... and that girl is best friends with both of them.
Author californ Posted September 24, 2011 Author Posted September 24, 2011 my question is, what do i do? blow her off or what
youngskywalker Posted September 24, 2011 Posted September 24, 2011 Pretty weird, no doubt about that. But why would that make you want to blow her off? I would go out with her and get some more info on the situation.... or maybe she isn't as cute as you say she is?
january2011 Posted September 24, 2011 Posted September 24, 2011 I don't think you needed his permission or blessing.I think it's pretty creepy that he put in the effort to research your email address.I don't think their relationship is as clear cut as it seems if he feels that he has the right to contact you (a complete stranger) out of the blue like that. If you go ahead and pursue a relationship with her, I'd just be aware of how much he is in the picture. Perhaps it's too early to ask her, perhaps not, but I think you'll have to be the judge of that.
Author californ Posted September 25, 2011 Author Posted September 25, 2011 she keeps wanting to hang... who would really want another bf when u only moved out of your ex's 1 week ago?? maybe she only wants rebound sex out of this, like how could i take her seriously for much else
snowflakes88 Posted September 25, 2011 Posted September 25, 2011 LS333, you are obviously the OP. How many usernames do you have? Do you truly feel it's normal to post back and forth with yourself? You REALLY need professional help.
snowflakes88 Posted September 25, 2011 Posted September 25, 2011 And honestly, for the guy's sake, I hope he's ignoring you because someone has put 2 and 2 together and sent him the links to all of your crazy posts.
snowflakes88 Posted September 25, 2011 Posted September 25, 2011 Right. Now you'll come back and say your ex has your password, and posted the above message, right? Interesting, considering you already admitted that you tried getting him back, only to have him reject you for a new girl. LS, I believe nothing you say. I also don't believe for a second that your ex ever emailed the new guy. I think YOU emailed him pretending to be your ex, and it totally backfired on you. But based on your antics in this thread alone - not to mention all of your other posts - you are certifiable, and this guy is 100% right to stay as far away from you as possible.
Trolly Posted September 25, 2011 Posted September 25, 2011 That's very strange, but I say if you dig her then go for her. If you anything happens that's strange that maintain a safe distance until things can seem clear.
carhill Posted September 25, 2011 Posted September 25, 2011 my question is, what do i do? blow her off or what LTR? Move on, dead hole IMO STR/ONS/FWB? Worth some effort, but not to the detriment of other prospects, IMO.
carhill Posted September 26, 2011 Posted September 26, 2011 In my world, where we drill for water and oil, a 'dead hole' or 'dry hole', is a waste of drill rod, bits, and mud. There isn't anything useful or productive which will come from that work and use of materials. We might have thought there was something down there, but we were wrong.
carhill Posted September 26, 2011 Posted September 26, 2011 If those 'few months' are alone and celibate, maybe LTR prospects. If other, and if this is the young crowd it sounds like, my confidence is low for any meaningful success. The apparent 'misunderstanding' about the 'guy' she was living with, as related in the OP, is but one signal of the need for growth and maturity in this realm. That won't be accomplished through relationship 'hopping' and the attendant replay of sexual and emotional highs. When I was that age, I would've gotten sucked in, and did a couple times, getting tossed aside when the next high was desired. Coincidentally, I was working oilfield services at that time, which is where I came up with the 'dead hole' analogy.
grkBoy Posted September 26, 2011 Posted September 26, 2011 So I started talking to this cute girl, asked her who she lived with. She said she first got an apartment with 2 guys she's known for years... but then 1 of the guys moved out a few years ago, so now it's just her + 1 guy. Never asked her if she was single. I get her #, start talking to her. Then I get an email from a guy who says, "I'm her ex-BF, just wanted to clarify that she's moving out of our shared apartment very soon. She's an awesome girl who will make someone happy, so please, feel free to go for her if you like her." WTF? She says her ex got my name cuz she mentioned me to their mutual friend... and that girl is best friends with both of them. Not everyone who breaks up ends up in hate/anger with one another. If she wants to date you then go with it.
bikinibeach Posted September 26, 2011 Posted September 26, 2011 you're a psycho! tell her your real feelings and stop messing with her life. accept yes or no. if no, GET A LIFE! and don't lie on loveshack
Lucky_One Posted September 26, 2011 Posted September 26, 2011 If those 'few months' are alone and celibate, maybe LTR prospects. If other, and if this is the young crowd it sounds like, my confidence is low for any meaningful success. The apparent 'misunderstanding' about the 'guy' she was living with, as related in the OP, is but one signal of the need for growth and maturity in this realm. That won't be accomplished through relationship 'hopping' and the attendant replay of sexual and emotional highs. When I was that age, I would've gotten sucked in, and did a couple times, getting tossed aside when the next high was desired. Coincidentally, I was working oilfield services at that time, which is where I came up with the 'dead hole' analogy. Carhill!!! STOP IT!! You are way too smart to be wasting your time posting to a nutcase. This is the poster who tried to get some guy to screw her and won't leave him alone, and now she/he/it is posting as herself, as the ex-fiance, and as the guy she won't let alone! Schizophrenia, anyone?
carhill Posted September 26, 2011 Posted September 26, 2011 My apologies....I get carried away sometimes. I must admit I was starting to get confused towards the end. Old age
Kinder-Horror Posted September 26, 2011 Posted September 26, 2011 I don't think the email was really from her ex. I think it was really from her and she may be a crazy. . . Consider it.
AHardDaysNight Posted September 26, 2011 Posted September 26, 2011 This makes no sense after the first few posts. Maybe I'm tired, it's 3am. I'm not going to start singing the Matchbox 20 song. Anyway, OP, I think you should ditch this girl. Definitely a poor choice, if her ex feels he needs to email or message the current boyfriend. The ex is probably not an ex.
Kinder-Horror Posted September 26, 2011 Posted September 26, 2011 Originally I was hoping he might suspect this. Then the guy would stay away from her. But when she found out about msg she got mad & told her friend how she wouldn't ever bring up an ex on her own, so itd be too hard to get people to believe she liked drama that much if that 1 time was only time she talked about it w him Nevermind. I just realized you, the OP, are actually the crazy one. I was going to say you underestimate the levels at which some women will go to in order to manipulate guys, but I just realized girls underestimate the same in men. You are wasting people's time with this thread, just talking to yourself like this.
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