AmEricanWomann Posted September 24, 2011 Posted September 24, 2011 Ive tried it...i havent had alot of weirdos, because I am pretty good at scoping out those types. But I haven't really found anyone I connect with. As I've mentioned before, I used to be monumentally overweight, and I didn't date at all then. So when I lost the weight and looked better, I really didn't know how to go out and meet guys, I was so insulated for so many years and I'm not 20 anymore or even 30, so I am not the type to go out and party. So I've tried it to try and get my feet wet, so to speak by using some dating sites. I get a pretty good response as far as numbers...But most are just not right for me though. For example, I'm in my 40s..and not ashamed of it. I dont lie about it . I put up recent pictures and state my real age on my profile, but literally about a third of the guys that write to me are at least 10 years younger than me...many are in their 20s. I am nice looking, I take care of myself now, but I know I don't look like a 20 year old, I'm not one of these delusional people that say "Oh I look so much younger than my age"I look like a decent looking 44 year old that's it, so I think its absolutely silly that a boy who's 24 years old would think that he and I have anything in common. Im not dumb, I know they're looking for sex, but if they think because we're older then them, we are desperate or easy, they're mistaken. I also think that alot of them think that they are the only young guy in their 20s or 30s writing to women in our 40s and 50s, so they think there wont be as much competition, they dont realize that alot of their friends are all doing the same thing. Ive actually had to put on my profile "Please, please Please no one under 30!" Most of these are not ugly guys at all. If I was younger I might go for some of them. I think they'd really have alot better chance going after girls close to their age. So that's been my experience.
thatone Posted September 24, 2011 Posted September 24, 2011 (edited) Because most of the woman want a convenient relationship and I dont want that. thus far i'm the only other person around here that says that. for all of the women that complain about men who are too aggressive, the women are too passive. someone needs to point out to them that they are not shopping, they're dealing with other people. then again, that could explain why they are still single and as you say, desperate to get into a wedding all of a sudden at 30+. all they're missing is a man who matches their shopping list to show up and give them everything they want, while they put minimal effort into the process. many of the woman have huge shopping list of things they look for in a man. an unrealistic list. a shopping list. falls in with the point above. i can sympathize with you all that are still making the best of it. don't know if my current relationship will last but i certainly do not miss the dating sites, for the exact reasons you mentioned. Edited September 24, 2011 by thatone
rocketman122 Posted September 24, 2011 Posted September 24, 2011 (edited) You said you love children but you refer to them as baggage and you need to be a priority over a woman's own children. Do you explain this in your profile or do they have to discover that atrocity on their own? What I meant to say was that to them I come with no baggage. not every woman wants to meet someone with children. it makes it very convenient for them. I do love children but after my exwife cheated on me and we split up (4 yrs ago) I lost interest. If anything I would rather adopt. and dont worry about the children part. leave it be and keep your criticisms to yourself. I noticed this about you. you like to criticize everyones comments instead of contributing or trying to understand but yet you dont even know what YMMV is. all you have to do is type in YMMV or any other acronym/abbreviation in Google and itll show it. My last GF who was 51 said that her partner is priority for her since her daughters 17/21 are very independent. it worked out well for both of us. Edited September 24, 2011 by rocketman122
madjac74 Posted September 24, 2011 Posted September 24, 2011 leave it be and keep your criticisms to yourself. I noticed this about you. you like to criticize everyones comments but dont even know what YMMV is. I criticize stupidity most of the time and 90% of the website is criticism. If you can't handle it then I suggest you go pump some iron. And who gives a flying **** what YMMV means? Your miles may vary? I don't treat women like they are a car
rocketman122 Posted September 24, 2011 Posted September 24, 2011 ymmv has nothing to do with comparing anyone to a car.. stupidity huh..? I rest my case..
madjac74 Posted September 24, 2011 Posted September 24, 2011 ymmv has nothing to do with comparing anyone to a car.. stupidity huh..? I rest my case.. In reality...(Not chat or forum speak) Your mileage may very is related to a car and how it's longevity is based on how you use it. I'm so dumb that I didn't know how the virtual geeks used the term
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