MonsterMunch Posted September 23, 2011 Posted September 23, 2011 Hey guys and gals, new to the forum, just stopping by for some advice; I'm not as shy as I used to be and I get on with women alot as a student, I like this chick alot from my hometown, I used to see her about alot but never introduced myself, a few years down the line I did just that, but on a certain social site. Talking a decent amount I plucked up asking her out, but disaster, she's just come out of a relationship and needs some spirit rising time, I have no problems with this, neither do I have a problem with being patient / supportive. How should I approach getting her to meet up, whether it be sooner or later (which may involve distance during term time). I don't want to seem clingy, but I want to seem consistently interested, and slowly ease her into the idea of meeting up. Any other critical advice is a thanks.
Imageiko Posted September 23, 2011 Posted September 23, 2011 It's tough because she already said no to a meet up. I think your best shot is to go out with some of your friends and invite her and her friends out as well. You'll have to do some work in person to change her mind imo.
Author MonsterMunch Posted September 23, 2011 Author Posted September 23, 2011 It's tough because she already said no to a meet up. I think your best shot is to go out with some of your friends and invite her and her friends out as well. You'll have to do some work in person to change her mind imo. To be honest mate she never said no, she said 'maybe' and then explained her situation, I definetly think i've got a later chance, it's a gut instinct.
grkBoy Posted September 23, 2011 Posted September 23, 2011 Well...if you two still talk, then be friendly about it all and just talk. Like Imageiko said, if she's comfortable chatting with you and a group social outing comes up, invite her. If she keeps putting up resistance, then accept there is not shot with her and move on.
Imageiko Posted September 23, 2011 Posted September 23, 2011 To be honest mate she never said no, she said 'maybe' and then explained her situation, I definetly think i've got a later chance, it's a gut instinct. In my opinion maybe and no mean the same thing although maybe isn't as bad as a straight no. I still think your best bet is inviting her and a few friends out with you and her friends. That way she gets to see how awesome you are in person in an environment you're comfortable in.
Author MonsterMunch Posted September 23, 2011 Author Posted September 23, 2011 Well...if you two still talk, then be friendly about it all and just talk. Like Imageiko said, if she's comfortable chatting with you and a group social outing comes up, invite her. If she keeps putting up resistance, then accept there is not shot with her and move on. She is most definitely in a comfort zone talking to me, we have ALOT of things in common, just looking for any do's and dont's more than some all knowing person to tell me what to do, because none such exists Edit- In regards to organising an event, we live in separate college's so i'm not sure how i'd be able to do that unless we were both happening to be at our hometown
grkBoy Posted September 23, 2011 Posted September 23, 2011 She is most definitely in a comfort zone talking to me, we have ALOT of things in common, just looking for any do's and dont's more than some all knowing person to tell me what to do, because none such exists Edit- In regards to organising an event, we live in separate college's so i'm not sure how i'd be able to do that unless we were both happening to be at our hometown Well, for now don't push trying to see her. Just talk and let her get over her RL. I'll also tell you not to put all your eggs in her basket. She might want to only date guys in her local town, so she could get over the ex and yet still not consider you because you're not nearby. Talk to other women as well.
Author MonsterMunch Posted September 23, 2011 Author Posted September 23, 2011 Well, for now don't push trying to see her. Just talk and let her get over her RL. I'll also tell you not to put all your eggs in her basket. She might want to only date guys in her local town, so she could get over the ex and yet still not consider you because you're not nearby. Talk to other women as well. Yeah man I agree, I wasn't planning on mentioning anything of the sort for a good few weeks atleast, to be honest I was planning mostly on just resisting starting any conversation with her online unless she does so and see if I can reconnect something in more later times. That idea however conflicts with seeming interested and nice regardless of her situation and earning the date the supportive way. To give you an idea of what the conversations are consisting of, it's literally just like any other conversation, a bit of the cheeky stuff, and mostly talking about what we like, what we get up to etc.
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