eerie_reverie Posted September 23, 2011 Posted September 23, 2011 Are these indicators that we should break up? 1. I don't miss him when we're apart 2. I would rather do things on my own than together 3. I often view hanging out as an obligation 4. I am not particularly turned on by him 5. I'm not excited at the prospect of any kind of future
madjac74 Posted September 23, 2011 Posted September 23, 2011 Ummm yes. It actually sounds like you despise him. What is keeping you with him?
Imageiko Posted September 23, 2011 Posted September 23, 2011 lol even one of those seems like a good sign you shouldn't be together let alone all 5. Move on, you'll be happier.
molimo140 Posted September 23, 2011 Posted September 23, 2011 Dear god yes.. Break up with him already, just uh... don't go reading off this list to him verbatim.
january2011 Posted September 23, 2011 Posted September 23, 2011 At the very least a weakened emotional connection. How long have you been feeling this way? Have you spoken to him about it?
OliveOyl Posted September 23, 2011 Posted September 23, 2011 Are these indicators that we should break up? 1. I don't miss him when we're apart 2. I would rather do things on my own than together 3. I often view hanging out as an obligation 4. I am not particularly turned on by him 5. I'm not excited at the prospect of any kind of future I had all those indicators when I realized my marriage wasn't working. Definitely yes, unless you think there's any way you can rekindle the original spark (if there was one to begin with).
Author eerie_reverie Posted September 23, 2011 Author Posted September 23, 2011 At the very least a weakened emotional connection. How long have you been feeling this way? Have you spoken to him about it? I don't know if it's really him and I don't know how to bring it up.
DenumChkn Posted September 23, 2011 Posted September 23, 2011 Smells like GIGS.. Or he's just not for you. I've probably been dumped for at least some of these reasons before. I got over it, so will he. Not everyone is meant for everyone else. Have you tried to talk to him about it all though? Or do you just act cold/distant like my ex did (which in hindsight was obvious and I should have given her some space and started looking at myself and the relationship harder).
january2011 Posted September 23, 2011 Posted September 23, 2011 I don't know if it's really him and I don't know how to bring it up. Perhaps something along the lines of: "Hey Mr eerie_reverie, I've been feeling a little down about a few things lately and really need your input. When's a good time to talk?"
Author eerie_reverie Posted September 23, 2011 Author Posted September 23, 2011 Perhaps something along the lines of: "Hey Mr eerie_reverie, I've been feeling a little down about a few things lately and really need your input. When's a good time to talk?" and then what do i say?
january2011 Posted September 23, 2011 Posted September 23, 2011 "Lately, I feel like we've been growing apart and don't seem as close as we used to be. What do you think?"
Author eerie_reverie Posted September 23, 2011 Author Posted September 23, 2011 "Lately, I feel like we've been growing apart and don't seem as close as we used to be. What do you think?" Well, the issue is partly that he is smothering me. What can I expect him to change to make me feel closer?
january2011 Posted September 23, 2011 Posted September 23, 2011 Ach, so you feel claustrophobic and want to run? Does he have his own life outside the relationship?
Author eerie_reverie Posted September 23, 2011 Author Posted September 23, 2011 Ach, so you feel claustrophobic and want to run? Does he have his own life outside the relationship? He has a good job, a large family, and a few close friends he hangs out with on occasion, but he is really introverted and prefers to spend his time alone/ with me.
january2011 Posted September 23, 2011 Posted September 23, 2011 You do need to at least have a talk with him about it. Just tell him how you're feeling. Be honest. If you can't come to an agreement about working through this, then call it a day. Be kind but firm.
Imajerk17 Posted September 23, 2011 Posted September 23, 2011 Weren't you the one who was thinking of moving in together and who was expecting a ILY? Maybe you aren't really ready for a relationship.
Imajerk17 Posted September 23, 2011 Posted September 23, 2011 Saw your other posts. I think you need to tell him that he needs to give you the gift of missing him.
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