CopingGal Posted September 23, 2011 Posted September 23, 2011 I started off the morning by writing a letter to me ex. It started off nice, but then took a turn for the worse. I ended the letter by cursing him. I did not send the letter. Why should I keep breaking NC to contact this moron? He doesn't care about how much he hurt me, and has told me to my face he has no remorse for things he's done. He thinks because I left him, he has nothing to apologize for. It's hard to stay in a relationship in which you are constantly ignorned and treated like someone's dirty little secret. We had a lot of good times. But he's hurt me too much. The fact that he's unable to feel remorse scares me and tells me that he is capable of anything. It's time for full NC forever. He's not going to contact me again, unless I contact him first. Why should I? He does not deserve me. He never did. Good riddance to bad rubbish!
smudge21 Posted September 23, 2011 Posted September 23, 2011 "Good riddance to bad rubbish!" Great advice for many on here... Well done for sticking to NC too - I know how hard that is.
Thieves Posted September 23, 2011 Posted September 23, 2011 Awesome, CoGal. I was scared there for a minute that you really sent that letter, after I read about the 'cursing'. But you didn't! I'm very happy that you decided to take the high road this time. It might not seem like it at first, but it often is the one road that takes you the farthest. Keep staying strong! - xo.
Bruised Not Broken Posted September 23, 2011 Posted September 23, 2011 You are doing GREAT! Be proud of yourself. You left him because he didn't treat you like as you should be. His lack of remorse shows a personality defect that you should be glad to be rid of. Keep writing down your feelings and keep from lashing out at him...it will help you to heal while maintaining your dignity. (this would be known as 'do as I say, not as I do'
Author CopingGal Posted September 23, 2011 Author Posted September 23, 2011 Thanks everyone for your emotional support. Weekends are the worst, but I'm hanging in there!
reimeivn Posted September 25, 2011 Posted September 25, 2011 oh wow i havent been here for a long time and i just saw all the new names and all the new faces. i believed that people do move on. have to keep in mind this words of mine: somebody leaving you must be the least of your problems. the least. i have roommate, she seems like she hates me sometimes, and to be honest, I am tired of making people like me. after the breakup i found friends who love me for who i am, and respect my point of view. She? always argued with me about things that is just plain personal preferences. Sorry I am just very different from her. I dont do one night stand. And I dont think very high of people who do one night stand. And staying the night and going on dates with guy while already in a relationship with somebody else. We rarely talk about this but the one time we did, i tried my best to make her feel not whory, and i just couldnt. See, now whats hard. the guy left me, it hurt but it was not hard. so you have to be strong and train yourself that way too. i send you a virtual hug. you will get there.
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