Vonhart Posted September 23, 2011 Posted September 23, 2011 Met a girl 5 months ago, it all seemd great, we had been out lots, taken her to nice places, gigs, dinner, lunches, even brought her flowers every month which she loved we both have kids and our daughters are the same age so we had lots in common, with ex partners and previous relationships, Everything had bee perfect, to the extent that we was going on hols with the kids etc.. 2 days before the holsd we had a big argument when drunk, one that she started accusing me of chatting to a girl and flirting, This did not happen at all, soon the row started with her saying its double standars and that i would get angry with her if she did it her, thing is i never have and itys not my style, i was in a relationship before with a girl who had insecurities. anyway ended up with a side to me i was not proud of by having a shouting row, things were said in the heat of the moment and under the influence of alcohol, things that were not meant by both of us. anyway i persuaded her not to ruin a holiday for us and the kids and see what happens when we got back, we went away and had a great time and got on really well, then 2 ays after we got back she went cold on me we spoke about it and she said that she cant be in a realtionship where it is arguing all the time, to which i said 1 row in 5 months is not bad and its naive of you to think you wont have fights, she agreed but said it brought back memoires of her ex husband (who i am nothing like, he does not even see or pay maintence for her daughter). well she wanted sonme time and started pushing me away bdeep down i knew this would not help, we saew eacvh other a few times aftre and had nice times, to the extent of her saying that she missed me and that she hopes we can get back on track, my thinking is it wount work unless you get over the row and embrace me.. anyway she had been blowing hot and cold for 3 weeks before she broke it off with me saying that it is missing something now and she does not think she can get it back, i told her i am not your ex so youcant treat me like him etc.. she sgreed but did not want to take the risk.., this hurts as i am being catogorised as her ex and he is a complete waster! fact is 2 days gone and i want to call her, its her dayughters birthday on monday 29th and i have acard from my daughter to her that i am not sure if i sdhould send as it may look like a way back in, it is not we brought this card a few weeks ago, i have been hearing a lot about getting ex back and to start the no contact rule, i have done this for 2 days and set myself a time of 2 weeks and put a call in and test the water, but its killing me as everyday for the past 5 months we spoke and text!
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