DenumChkn Posted September 23, 2011 Posted September 23, 2011 I'm about a month and a half out of a 6 month relationship with the first girl I ever felt I truly loved. It was not a bad breakup, she dumped me to 'focus on school' (ie. Shes 20 and I'm 26 and she needs to experience all that college crap that I already did, I don't hold it against her). Well even before our breakup a girl I work with (at a restaurant) was very flirty with me and made her intentions towards me very plain, which I appreciate. Feeling I have begun to move on, I finally asked her to go out for a simple coffee date last night and it was great, we talked for a few hours and I really got to know her and appreciated a lot of things about the way she was able to communicate that my ex lacked. My caveats are: -She is 19, another young one -Her relationship experience is fairly limited, she has had sex ONE time with one guy she had a volatile on and off relationship with for 2 years -I think she is a genuinely good girl and I don't want to USE her as a rebound and I think she is weary of me and the situation I just got out of (I was open with her about it) -I know she likes me a lot, I like her too but I'm not sure if it is to the same degree When I talk to her and hang out with her, I feel completely beyond and over my ex and really enjoy our time together. I don't know how to put this gracefully so I'll just say it - I want to have a physical relationship with her but I am afraid of myself. She is well liked by most people at our work and if i were to hurt her in any way I would be spelling my own doom, so I know I have to tread lightly. Am I wrong to pursue a relationship with her? Should I not continue to date her or anyone and just focus on myself? I would be fine with being alone, but this girl has been pursuing me and people at work have been pushing me to date her and to be honest, I feel like I can be myself around her, something I can't necessarily say for my ex. I was not looking for another relationship but this situation just kind of found me, I just don't want to hurt her or myself.. Any advice is greatly appreciated.
january2011 Posted September 23, 2011 Posted September 23, 2011 I think it's too soon but that's just my opinion. If you do start something with her, I suggest going slowly so that you are more mindful of your actions and hers.
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