domesticated male Posted September 22, 2011 Posted September 22, 2011 hey ppl, day 4 of nc so far its the longest, this is the longest i havnt spoke or heard from her in 7 years, oh its been so hard. Her work rang this morning to see if she could work. she was only causal their while studying. Should i break nc ? they might of rang her mobile as well unsure. after two weeks of begging her to come home, ive finialy gave up. She came and got a few things last week, she brought 2 boxes and thought she could pack her life up in a few hours. She still has alot of stuff here andd she knows that. Ive no idea when she coming to get the rest of her stuff. And she said she was going to give me money for the car i bought her and the trip overseas i paid for when we were together. I miss her so much, but i cant cry anymore. I dont want to go out either, i rather just the boys come round my house is that bad ? i work with her father at work and spoke to him the other day to see how she is coping. He said shes unsure if she made the right decision and to give her some space while she sorts out her head. I was polite and i get along with all her family, they love me for looking after her. ive supporter her for the past 4 years, together for almost 8 years, while she was studied and that's coming to a end, ive cook, clean, pay the bills and worked. how long do i wait b4 i contact her or ring her to pick up her ****, money etc. or about work ringing this morning.
EgoJoe Posted September 22, 2011 Posted September 22, 2011 It's too soon: Don't answer and don't call back. Box her stuff up and have a friend drop it off or mail it. Stay strong my friend and value yourself!
TheDovic Posted September 23, 2011 Posted September 23, 2011 I can't tell you to box up your ex's things because mine still has lots in my house too! What I can tell you is if you've been begging her then the best thing to do right now is give her space or else you'll just push her away further, so DON'T CALL under any circumstances... yet! As I tell a lot of people on this site, your ex broke up with you because she lost attraction for you (this is true whether you want to believe it or not!). And guess what? Neediness and desperation KILLS attraction, so all you're doing at the minute is killing her attraction for you even more and helping her justify her decision to leave you. Read David DeAngelo's "Attraction isn't a choice" (Download the kindle app from Amazon to your pc so you can read it). I promise you this will help you. It might not bring her back, but it'll give you a fighting chance. I did the same as you, begging and acting desperate for a while (because we're human!) and all it did was chase her away. Since reading this book she has been initiating contact 2/3 times per week, so at least I'm giving her something to think about. I don't know if I'll ever get my ex back, but I love her so much and it kills me being without her, and I can tell you're going through the same thing. So if I can help anyone else in this **** situation I will do my best. And to me that is to give you this advice: be a man, the man she wants you to be!
Author domesticated male Posted September 23, 2011 Author Posted September 23, 2011 started a new thread after she contact me, should i just spew my feelings on just the one thread im unsure how this works.. sorry dum aussies
Author domesticated male Posted September 23, 2011 Author Posted September 23, 2011 thanks so much TheDovic getting the book now
TheDovic Posted September 23, 2011 Posted September 23, 2011 Let me know what you think dude. It really helped me see where I was going wrong and how I should act now!
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