Worried. How should I go about this??

[Zuala]

I have been going out with this guy for like two months now. Does this seem like it has been going well...

 

We go out once, twice a week. He buys me Dinner and I choose what we eat.

 

Have hung out with he's friends a few times.

 

Have spent a weekend away with him as well where he paid for everything. Except the flight. I did not expect for him to pay for that.

 

He does call me he's girlfriend. Around he's friends and mine. Also in general conversation as well.

 

The only things are. He does not call or text much. Only when necessary. But always keeps dates and buys us both treats when he comes over.

 

Also he has been very busy lately and has had to cancel our weekly date night twice. One. Due to a family reason, Grandma sick in Hospital. He reschedules a date with me for the next day but I say no because I am busy.

 

We end up hanging out 9:30pm on a Sunday in the end.

 

Secondly he cancels due to a work mate ending up in Hospital and having to get stitches. Apparently he had to take him there. He got fixed up and everything was fine.

 

I had a go at him the second time cause I thought he was bull****ting me. Getting out of dates two weeks that just so happen to fall on date night cause of two medical reasons? Told him not to pull this bull**** on me if he was not interested in me. He should just say he is not.

 

He told me if he was not interested he would not have organised this and asked me out. That he was deadly serious about what was going on and apologised, I apologised as well. Just said I was disappointed just wanted to see and catch up with him.

 

He gave me text updates during the night, then mentioned when he got home. Gave me a good night, xx's then went to bed. When he got home said he would call me the next day but he never did.

 

Now nothing. Should I just leave him be you reckon? Really like this guy and did not mean to have a go at him the way I did. Just was disappointed we never got to hang out.

Edited September 22, 2011 by Zuala

[snug.bunny]

I have been going out with this guy for like two months now. Does this seem like it has been going well...

 

We go out once, twice a week. He buys me Dinner and I choose what we eat.

 

Have hung out with he's friends a few times.

 

Have spent a weekend away with him as well where he paid for everything. Except the flight. I did not expect for him to pay for that.

 

He does call me he's girlfriend. Around he's friends and mine. Also in general conversation as well.

 

The only things are. He does not call or text much. Only when necessary. But always keeps dates and buys us both treats when he comes over.

 

Also he has been very busy lately and has had to cancel our weekly date night twice. One. Due to a family reason, Grandma sick in Hospital. He reschedules a date with me for the next day but I say no because I am busy.

 

We end up hanging out 9:30pm on a Sunday in the end.

 

Secondly he cancels due to a work mate ending up in Hospital and having to get stitches. Apparently he had to take him there. He got fixed up and everything was fine.

 

I had a go at him the second time cause I thought he was bull****ting me. Getting out of dates two weeks that just so happen to fall on date night cause of two medical reasons? Told him not to pull this bull**** on me if he was not interested in me. He should just say he is not.

 

He told me if he was not interested he would not have organised this and asked me out. That he was deadly serious about what was going on and apologised, I apologised as well. Just said I was disappointed just wanted to see and catch up with him.

 

He gave me text updates during the night, then mentioned when he got home. Gave me a good night, xx's then went to bed. When he got home said he would call me the next day but he never did.

 

Now nothing. Should I just leave him be you reckon? Really like this guy and did not mean to have a go at him the way I did. Just was disappointed we never got to hang out.

 

When is the last time you spent time together and when was the last time you spoke on the phone?

[Zuala]

The last time we hung out was 9:30pm the Sunday before our last date he cancelled which would have been the last Sunday gone.

 

He rarely calls or texts. The last time we had contact was on that Wednesday and now it is Friday.

Edited September 22, 2011 by Zuala

[snug.bunny]

The last time we hung out was 9:30pm the Sunday before our last date he cancelled which would have been the last Sunday gone.

 

He rarely calls or texts. The last time we had contact was on that Wednesday and now it is Friday.

 

So you saw each other this past Sunday (5 days ago) and haven't spoken in two days. You've been dating for two months, and it sounds like during this time, you've met his friends, gone away together and have gone out 1-2 times a week. Is this sufficient for you? Or, do you sense he's pulling away...The phone thing could be him not being a "phone person", but it could be something else in correlation to him cancelling on you two times in a row, even though they sound like legitimate reasons (family/friend issues) or it could be total bullpoop.

[Zuala]

I don't mind seeing him once or twice a week. Would not mind hanging out maybe 3 times a week more so but. We are both busy people though. Maybe that is all it is?

 

We both are as busy as each other. Even he has even said it. Before those cancellations he was like, I have been trying to make this happen but you are equally as busy as me.

 

He sounded legitimate through the texts. Questioned him both times about what happened and got answers and all that. No he does not seem like a phone person at all. Getting more of them, him texting first would be nice though.

 

Just wish I did not like the guy so much cause lately. It does not seem like anything at all... .