If only I focused more on my career rather than on girls...

[Teknoe]

This is something I wish I could have told myself 5 years ago. It would have spared me much pain and grief. It's my hopes sharing this with you that you are reminded of life's priorities.

 

Yes, a relationship with the opposite sex can be a great thing. But when you make it your life's #1 focus, especially when you haven't taken care of other business, it can really mess you up.

 

Basically, I'm finally learning to put aside my desires to be with a woman, and instead place that energy fantasizing and daydreaming and replaying 'what if' scenarios in my head into my career. I've neglected my career like you would not believe. However, I'm taking small steps to rectify things.

 

It is said that luck happens when opportunity and preparation meet. Recently, an opportunity presented itself to me professionally, but unfortunately, I was not prepared.

 

Thus, the other day I took a baby step to rectify that. I finally got myself on the list. Before I wasn't on the list, so I couldn't even be called into action. So now, going forward, if opportunity calls, I'd at least be prepared.

 

Life is about being available and where your heart is.

 

If you focus on doing what's right and what's healthy... it's no surprise that you will start to live a "right" life and a healthy life. For some it will take longer than others but if you persist you will eventually get there.

 

So moral of my story is... BE AVAILABLE so when opportunity comes, you'll be prepared to make the most of it.

 

Don't be like me, and get caught off guard where opportunity comes, but you haven't yet 'lined up your ducks in a row.'

 

I hope this message/lesson blesses someone. I know it has blessed me

[Teknoe]

PS- for the longest time I been trying to find satisfaction in having a life partner alongside me. Now I realize, first, I need to be healthy and as whole as possible. Part of that includes having a full time stable career job. The woman will come later, naturally. I been going about this the wrong way the past 5 years... trying to land the girl before the career. Now I'm learning... the woman can always wait. The career... it can't.

[FredRutherford]

Methinks a balance is good.

 

If you focus too much on your career, and spend all your time on that, you might later find you've cheated yourself out of time that could have been spent on building relationships.

 

Used to work in TV news. Asked a colleague if he watched the late news on the ch. he worked for when he was home evenings.

Told me he didn't watch a lot of TV or the station's newscasts when he's off. Said he didn't want to be one of those who only talked about his work and career...

 

I do understand how it might look better to get a career going when dating.

Went to a church singles group once.

At Sunday lunch afterward, they went around the table and asked what people did for a living.

Remember feeling a little uncomfortable when I said I was "in-between" jobs.

Imagine I could have said "I'm a software developer" or "accountant" etc. and not necessarily disclosed the fact I was unemployed.

 

If you're not where you want to be in your field, try to put a postive spin on it.

Say I'm in such-and-such field and searching for an ideal position that can utilize my talents. This economy is tough, etc.

Or, I'm working in this field but am trying to earn a graduate degree to do better...

Then ask her about her line of work, field of study, etc.

[Woggle]

This is what I did after my divorce and I made a fortune plus met a great woman. Build your life up and then if a worthy woman earns her space in it you can make room for her.

[Teknoe]

Methinks a balance is good.

 

Agreed with this. Just to clarify, when I wrote the topic title, I don't mean focus SOLELY on my career, just more even out, instead of 90-10 girls-career. 50-50 would have been nice....