allizi91 Posted September 22, 2011 Posted September 22, 2011 Okay so I know that a lot of these posts come along and everyone seems to have the same story of the wicked sister-in law. But... let me tell you, my story is complicated... It started about a week after we started dating. I met my boyfriend's mother and everything was great. Then about a month later his sister (who is 26 at this point) moved back to her mother's house. Her husband apparently went back to war somewhere in the world. At this point in time his parents decided they didn't want him to be with me. Why? I have absolutely no clue! They said awful things about me and beat our relationship to the floor. I wasn't there at the time because I lived in the town and he outside of it. Well things only got worse. His parents decided that they were going to take away his brand new car away because he wouldn't break up with me. He told them to go to hell and that they could take everything away but he wasn't going to break up with me. He wasn't allowed to see me outside of school. Which really sucked given that nature of the time, it was during the holidays. We didn't get to see much of each other. His sister moved back and supposedly tried to help us see each other. She would pick me up at my house with him and drive back to their house. I got to spend time with him and his family. For some reason at this point they acted like all was well and that all the horrible things they said about me was gone. I just shook it off my shoulders. My mom taught me to respect my elders and to always be polite. I enforced that teaching and let it go. Well.... around this time my boyfriend got a new phone and tossed the old aside. Unfortunately for us, texts between us about our secret intimate relationship was still on the phone. His mother and sister went through the phone and read the messages. After finding these messages, they go to my mother's work! And tried to show her the texts but she asked them to come to our house later that evening to talk about it, seeing that she was busy at her work and it wasn't appropriate to talk at that time. They agreed and left... you would think they would go home right? I DON'T THINK SO! They went to where my older brother worked and showed him the messages as well!!!! I mean WTF!!! My brother just told them that, those messages are between us and that he doesn't need to read it. But they insisted and he looked at them but he again told them that those texts were between us and went back to work. Later that evening, they were a no show and didn't even bother to call or tell us in any way that they would not be there. Polite right? I wasn't allowed over at their house after this and again we had to see each other during school hours. I was a mess at this point, having my privacy be exploited to my family and my relationship being strained by his family. So everything was good again for another week then his family decided to argue with him about us being together. More nasty and horrible things were said about me. They forced him to break up with me. He called and told me that his parents are making him break up with me or else they were going to the police and get a restraining order on me and get me for being older than him by a year. He explained that we were technically together but we had to hide it and we had to pretend we weren't together until things got better. So we basically went on a break for an indefinite period of time. He didn't pick me up the next day for school, I didn't see him because he was late to school the next day and I contemplated to even bother seeing him. At the end of second period he was standing outside his class waiting for me to walk by. I had been crying and wasn't up to school. I was about to ask my mom to pick me up from school. Then I saw him standing there waiting for me. I was so mad that his parents did this to not only me but to their own son! How could parents be so cruel and heartless to their own children?! We sat together at lunch despite the instructions his parents gave him. He proposed to me in the hall when the bell rang for lunch to end and the next class to start. I said yes and we vowed to not let his parents control either of us. He got into another argument with his parents later that night and he pushed his father out of his life for a while and he told his mother that she isn't controlling either of us anymore. His mom got angry and started accusing me of manipulating him and controlling him. He told everyone to back off and that we weren't going to stop being together because legally our being together wasn't illegal and he wasn't going to consent to getting a restraining order on me because he was going to marry me and he didn't need the material things they provided for him. Of course naturally I wasn't allowed over again. But I didn't care because we still got to see each other some days during the holidays whether it be because his sister dropped him off at my house for a couple of hours or because I got my big bro to drive me over. We weren't going to be stopped! His parents learned that they could no longer control him and that trying to break us up was never going to work. His sister at this point decided to not like me for a weird reason. I got sick and went over to their house. I had the stomach flu and was still getting over it. His mother invited me for dinner and I accepted. I ate the food given to me and it was delicious! I loved her food. I have told my boyfriend this many times. He knew I was feeling awful and felt bad that I went over. I threw up after eating and apologized and thanked them for the great food. My boyfriend and I made arrangements days before I got sick and threw up at his house, to eat out somewhere nice when I got money from my aunt. I didn't want him to have to wait for me to get better and since it was the weekend we agreed that we would eat out then. Later that night I got on to facebook and checked my updates. I saw that someone posted on my post about me frustrated and wanting people to stop yelling and being considerate of other people. His sister posted some people should listen to their own advice, just saying....... I didn't know what she meant and it was mean. My family is on my facebook and I didn't want a fight to break out so I posted underneath a friendly comment and asked her what she meant and put a smiley face by it. She never replied. The next day was a Saturday after I threw up dinner at his house, my stomach was definitely not feeling well again. But this time his sister was being very cold and rude to me. She made an effort to not talk to me and gave me dirty looks. I was invited to lunch and I was hungry and not feeling well so I ate some food but very slowly so I wouldn't throw up again. She thanked her mom for the meal and gave me another dirty look and emphasized that it was very delicious and nobody can tell her otherwise. I had no clue what was going on and I really didn't care. I was more concerned with having to survive dinner with my boyfriend. Around 6, I asked him where he would like to eat and invited his mother and sister to eat. They refused and told us to eat at "The hat." We drove over and order some food but again I couldn't eat much and I was feeling horrible. His sister text him while we ate. (I was trying) She sent him horrible things saying "why did you let that little nobody treat mom like that?" and saying that I was a "b****" and so on... He got upset and called his mom and asked what his sister was talking about and his mother said it was rude that I threw up her food and that I hardly ate any of her food for lunch and now we were eating at a restaurant. He tried to explain that I was sick but they weren't having it. To make matters worse, his dad was brought into it and his dad agreed that I was being rude and that I don't even bother to get to know his mother or sister and that I was showing him a bad side of me. It was incredible how they jumped from subject to subject. And how they could put me down so easily and say horrible things about my family when they didn't bother to get to know my family as well. They called us dirty nobodies, worthless trash, dirty native Americans, and called him a chink because I am half Chinese. They called me every name you could think of and said every hurtful thing towards my family. They were vicious and evil but the reason for this? I still have no idea. A lot of this happened during our relationship which is almost two years now. We are still together and moved in with each other. He moved out and is going to college. A couple of months ago his sister started even more drama for us. She wrote me mean messages on facebook and told everyone she could that I was manipulative and controlling and mean to her family. She accused me of calling her and her mother awful names and bribing her brother to do things for me, in return of getting sexual favors from me. She even got two girls involved in trying to tear us apart. A girl from McDonald's goes out of her way to say that she is afraid of me because I'm going to kidnap her and that I control my boyfriend he does everything I say or else I get mad and start abusing his friends. She also likes to add that he breaks up with me to text her and stalks her. I have no clue how to get rid of these psychos and just live our life peacefully. The worst part of this all is that his parents don't believe anything his sister has done and doesn't believe that those two girls have anything to do with this whole mess. Thankfully we now live in another bigger city away from them but through facebook and his sister's profile, we still get people threatening us and talking mean about me and my family. My life is a mess and I have no clue how to handle his sister or these other girls who want to take my fiance away from me. I confronted one of them and she continued with her lies trying to make me believe my fiance is trying to get with her. I live with him and he is the type that lets me read his messages and lets me into his facebook. He is an open book to me, like i am to him. We are getting married soon but not just yet. If you have any advice please write me. I need help, I can't handle his sister or those yucky girls anymore.
Lucky_One Posted September 22, 2011 Posted September 22, 2011 Both of you can start by deleting your FB accounts.
Author allizi91 Posted September 22, 2011 Author Posted September 22, 2011 I was thinking about doing that a few weeks ago. I might just take your advice on that. Thanks.
Recommended Posts