calidreamin Posted September 22, 2011 Posted September 22, 2011 Scene:I started dating this guy who is from Chile. He claims to live with his sister in a one bedroom guesthouse. I have been to his house twice, and I started to make observations. Here are my observations: -He claims to sleep on a pull out couch, but I checked and it does not pull out. In addition the couch is too small to sleep comfortably. -A lot of his things are in the bedroom. -The apartment is set up in such a way that it looks like a couple lives there, and not two siblings of opposite genders. When I first went to his house, I asked him if the couch pulled out, and he said "yes," but he insisted we have sex on his sister's bed, which I thought was odd. (note: He is from Chile, so I just chalked it up as they do things differently there, so maybe it is not disrespectful, and I also thought maybe he didn't understand what I meant by pull out couch. Although he did say that he slept on the couch). The whole couch thing has really thrown me off because I cannot imagine that he and his sister sleep in the same bed. In addition, if there are two siblings living together, wouldn't the set up of the house be entirely different than what I saw? What do you guys think? Have I been duped? I just have this gnawing feeling that he lives with his girlfriend and not his sister...I think he is lying. p.s. I have been seeing him for 3+weeks...
FrustratedStandards Posted September 22, 2011 Posted September 22, 2011 I didn't even have to read past the "hes from Chile" part. Stay away from latinos. They lie, they cheat, and they all have kids. If they don't, then they're not attractive.
carhill Posted September 22, 2011 Posted September 22, 2011 What's new? Well, Wall Street is sharply lower on renewed fears about the economy. I think that ties in pretty well with the subject title. There's lots of lying men right here in Cali; no need to stray far from home. Welcome to LS
serial muse Posted September 22, 2011 Posted September 22, 2011 I didn't even have to read past the "hes from Chile" part. Stay away from latinos. They lie, they cheat, and they all have kids. If they don't, then they're not attractive. Oh ugh. I originally was just going to post to point out to the OP that not all men are liars, just the one she's entangled with. But then this too?? I don't even know what to say, except no.
FrustratedStandards Posted September 22, 2011 Posted September 22, 2011 Oh ugh. I originally was just going to post to point out to the OP that not all men are liars, just the one she's entangled with. But then this too?? I don't even know what to say, except no. Am I wrong to stereotype when I have never been proved otherwise?
Author calidreamin Posted September 22, 2011 Author Posted September 22, 2011 I left out that this just happened this week. In addition, I only said that men are liars because even the "nice" ones, like this guy for example, lie. He doesn't have the "bad boy" persona. He came off as a nice --wholesome kind of guy. I notice that the men on this forum are always complaining that women always go for the "bad boy", and I am here giving you all an example of a guy who doesn't fit the traditional paradigm. I also said that men are liars because this has happened to me a few times. He is not the typical guy I'd go for, but I thought he was cool and interesting...sigh. I shouldn't have titled the thread in that way because I don't believe that, but my faith in men is starting to dwindle.
Author calidreamin Posted September 22, 2011 Author Posted September 22, 2011 The correct question is, is this guy lying to me about having a girlfriend or am I reading too much into the situation? What do you guys think?
serial muse Posted September 22, 2011 Posted September 22, 2011 Am I wrong to stereotype when I have never been proved otherwise? Well...yes. You don't know all Latino or Hispanic men. I'm guessing you only know a handful at most, perhaps just a couple. My .sig line, in which I wholeheartedly believe, says it all:
FrustratedStandards Posted September 22, 2011 Posted September 22, 2011 Well...yes. You don't know all Latino or Hispanic men. I'm guessing you only know a handful at most, perhaps just a couple. My .sig line, in which I wholeheartedly believe, says it all: The plural of "anecdote" is not "data." Thats true, I don't. But with my experience, and especially those that you meet in social venues (bars, clubs, parties), they're all like that. The reason I am so resentful is because I am so attracted to latino men. But every single time I started dating one, its the same old story: jealous, dramatic and has kids. So I don't date them anymore, I only F them (my F buddy is latino).
Eddie Edirol Posted September 22, 2011 Posted September 22, 2011 Thats true, I don't. But with my experience, and especially those that you meet in social venues (bars, clubs, parties), they're all like that. The reason I am so resentful is because I am so attracted to latino men. But every single time I started dating one, its the same old story: jealous, dramatic and has kids. So I don't date them anymore, I only F them (my F buddy is latino). Eh, I'd hate to back this up, but the Puerto Rican woman I am seeing told me that she has sworn off all latin men for these exact reasons.
oaks Posted September 22, 2011 Posted September 22, 2011 What's new? Some woman calling all men liars certainly isn't, and some woman clearly describing unreasonable and inexplicable behaviour (telling lies about a pull out couch that doesn't pull out and being unable to otherwise explain his sleeping arrangements) yet still not having dumped the guy, well that isn't new either. Anyway, dump him, but less hating on all men, please.
soserious1 Posted September 22, 2011 Posted September 22, 2011 Scene:I started dating this guy who is from Chile. He claims to live with his sister in a one bedroom guesthouse. I have been to his house twice, and I started to make observations. Here are my observations: -He claims to sleep on a pull out couch, but I checked and it does not pull out. In addition the couch is too small to sleep comfortably. -A lot of his things are in the bedroom. -The apartment is set up in such a way that it looks like a couple lives there, and not two siblings of opposite genders. When I first went to his house, I asked him if the couch pulled out, and he said "yes," but he insisted we have sex on his sister's bed, which I thought was odd. (note: He is from Chile, so I just chalked it up as they do things differently there, so maybe it is not disrespectful, and I also thought maybe he didn't understand what I meant by pull out couch. Although he did say that he slept on the couch). The whole couch thing has really thrown me off because I cannot imagine that he and his sister sleep in the same bed. In addition, if there are two siblings living together, wouldn't the set up of the house be entirely different than what I saw? What do you guys think? Have I been duped? I just have this gnawing feeling that he lives with his girlfriend and not his sister...I think he is lying. p.s. I have been seeing him for 3+weeks... Why are you generalizing here, ascribing a really negative trait to an entire gender is wrong! Shame on you!
Ruby Slippers Posted September 22, 2011 Posted September 22, 2011 I think your intuition is right. Many clues here do not line up with his story.
denise_xo Posted September 22, 2011 Posted September 22, 2011 Anyway, dump him, but less hating on all men, please. Agreed. All these gender generalisations are god damn annoying, and very offensive.
carhill Posted September 22, 2011 Posted September 22, 2011 OP, best way to know about the sister thing is to meet his sister and confab a bit about their lovely home. It'll become obvious, one way or another.
Scottdmw Posted September 22, 2011 Posted September 22, 2011 Both men and women have an equal propensity to lie.
AHardDaysNight Posted September 22, 2011 Posted September 22, 2011 Some men are liars. Put it into context. Anyway, yeah I agree, dump the guy. It has nothing to do with his ethnicity, and everything to do with his personality. He isn't who he says he is.
Author calidreamin Posted September 22, 2011 Author Posted September 22, 2011 Look, I am sorry for making such a nasty generalization;I really don't believe that to be true of all men. It just seems like the men I am running into lately are not honest, and these are not typical bad boys or player types. This thing with this guy hasn't evolved into something serious, so how do I bring up meeting his sister to ascertain whether she is, in fact, his sister? I really like this guy, and feel kinda bad that he may have lied to me.
oaks Posted September 22, 2011 Posted September 22, 2011 Look, I am sorry for making such a nasty generalization;I really don't believe that to be true of all men. Apology accepted. (I still think you should just dump him.)
Mme. Chaucer Posted September 22, 2011 Posted September 22, 2011 I'm pretty sure he is lying. In fact, he certainly did lie about the "pull-out" couch. It does rub me and a lot of other people the wrong way when an entire gender (or culture, race, whatever) is trashed because of one person's bad experience. Since you say that this kind of scenario happens to you frequently, I think it must be time to take a good hard look at the role you play in them.
madjac74 Posted September 22, 2011 Posted September 22, 2011 Some men are liars. Put it into context. Anyway, yeah I agree, dump the guy. It has nothing to do with his ethnicity, and everything to do with his personality. He isn't who he says he is. Let's put it into real context. Everyone lies! Men, women...i even think dogs and cats lie!
serial muse Posted September 22, 2011 Posted September 22, 2011 Let's put it into real context. Everyone lies! Men, women...i even think dogs and cats lie! Cats maybe...but not dogs!! Sorry for the threadjack, OP...I do think you should just dump this guy too.
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