Scirok Posted September 22, 2011 Posted September 22, 2011 B/u July 12th N/c aug 2nd unbroken Hey everyone I'm back again with a few more questions to take a quick recap my gf of three years broke up with me and with in a week had a new "friend" and "stuff was happening" so I heard threw the grape vine and not to best it into the ground for the others who have read my previous threads but she left me for a perk addict and drug dealer who didn't graduate highschool or has a licence or job or any money. Now my question is this a rebound or what is it? I mean I don't know about rebound but how long do they last it's been 8-9 weeks she's been with this guy or longer and I'm just wondering if it isn't a rebound and she really likes "loves" him I just wonder is she's really happy with this kid or just regrets it and is afraid if she try's to fix it with me she will lose him and not get me back. I'm not saying i want her back I just wonder if she's really happy with such a ****ty human being. Its just this kid is a complete 360 of me I'm done college a fire fighter and an emt and a very clean cut proper guy and so Is she so it's not like she likes drugs partying etc she's never done anything like that and I've tried to get her to drink when we were together and she wouldn't so I wonder what she saw in this kid plus I'm a good looking guy in good shape built and he's obv a perk head so he weighs 100 pounds and is lanky no muscle idk LS Im just confused And also I have a new girl in my life nothing serious although she likes me Alot I'm taking it slow and not trying to rush into thing and I know it's wrong but I feel guilty having these thoughts and questions about my ex I know I need to leave it alone it's just hard I guess u can say I'm not completely over her cause I just have so many questions. I feel In my heart like that gut feeling she's not happy with him and her friends have been reaching out to me in a way just asking me how I'm doing and I wonder if it's her trying to get info out of me. and also I see her drive by my house alot and basically stare the whole time almost looking for another girls car So my questions are 1 do you think it's a rebound if she's been with him this long? 2 do you think she regrets what she did? 3 do you think she misses me? 4 and finally do you think I'm going about this new girl Wrong and is it sad that I try to compare them to each other
solong123 Posted September 22, 2011 Posted September 22, 2011 1.) Sounds like a rebound, but I don't think it really matters in her mind right now. If this guy is everything you're saying is he is then let her learn her lesson. If he really is into drugs and all that, he will eventually ditch her. But that doesn't mean you should stick around and wait for it to happen. 2.) Right now it doesn't appear that she regrets it at all to be honest. Maybe she's going through a bad boy phase, who really knows. But really you need to stop overanalyzing every movement with her and the new guy. Maybe some day she will regret it, but by then you will be happy with someone else that doesn't make you a second choice. 3.) She may miss you when she realizes all this guy cares about is his next fix but really right now she's enjoying living life in the fast lane with this dude. It's exciting and new, but trust me that gets old quick. She will come to her senses eventually but again, not your problem. 4.) You're clearly not ready to date someone yet. Not until you stop obsessing over your exes life with her new guy. Be honest with the new girl, she doesn't deserve to be played with if she really is that interested in you.
Author Scirok Posted September 23, 2011 Author Posted September 23, 2011 Thanks for the advice i know it's selfish of me i just want her to feel what Ive been going threw. She was instantly happy after the break up and here I am still crying sometimes. I just hope this relationship ends not so I could get back with her just so she realizes what she really lost with me i Know everyone says it but i was a really good bf to her and did everything to make her happy. But i dont ever see him or her ending it for him this girl is the best looking thing he's ever got and for her she would fear of being alone and would never leave. If anyone else has their input it would be helpful
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