bigred0489 Posted September 22, 2011 Posted September 22, 2011 Hey, first post on here, decided to come somewhere dedicated to relationships! So, me and my ex of just over a week broke up mutually. We have had our moments, fights, bickering and so on. She's a few years younger than me and has had a lot of problems in her life so it was always a bit of a rollercoaster. But, we loved each other regardless. The breakup was via skype as she recently moved away and we felt neither of us should have to endure a drive or journey home afterwards. We were both in tears, telling each other how much we love each other. We have been in touch constantly ever since, texting, facebook and so on. We told each other at the end of last week that we still loved each other, and how difficult we were finding the breakup. She has decided to come up the road on saturday to meet up, she wants to pick me up, head to her place and watch some movies...!?! After the breakup i honestly started to feel that this was more her dumping me than a mutual thing as i realised how much i love her. She's been stronger than me throughout. Is there still that possibility that something will happen!? Just a few days before the breakup, i went down twice and visited, staying with her. We couldn't let go of each other, kept telling each other just how much we love each other, just, wow. As i write this, she has just text me saying: "I really am looking forward to seeing you!! Its been weird... xxxx"
Lucio Posted September 22, 2011 Posted September 22, 2011 Well, if anything, I have better vibes for ur case than mine.
Author bigred0489 Posted September 22, 2011 Author Posted September 22, 2011 An update, she called me earlier, just for a chat.... followed by a message saying it was really nice to speak to me and she was glad she called. Mixed signals or what... Anyone with any words of wisdom?
TheDovic Posted September 23, 2011 Posted September 23, 2011 Hey Bigred, she definitely loves you and is excited to see you, BUT don't get you're hopes up too soon! The reason I believe she has been stronger throughout is because the dumper usually has been thinking about the breakup for a while and in many ways has grieved for the loss of the love, whereas you are only starting you're grieving process. My ex is a lot like yours, as was the tearful breakup and the unsure feelings on her part. One minute she loves me, the next she is cold! I'm not saying your ex will be like this but prepare yourself because these mixed messages can be tough to deal with. I wish you all the best and will you do me a favour? Let me and the other posters know if it works out for you. Would be nice to see a wee success story on here
Author bigred0489 Posted September 23, 2011 Author Posted September 23, 2011 what's the reason for the break? Difference stages in our lives, she's started uni, i've finished amongst others. I dont know, we did fight a lot, but we always said we wanted to be together and that was it. Even right up until the breakup she was so positive that she wanted us to work, there was no real lets try to resolve things or anything, just, it ended!
Author bigred0489 Posted September 23, 2011 Author Posted September 23, 2011 Hey Bigred, she definitely loves you and is excited to see you, BUT don't get you're hopes up too soon! The reason I believe she has been stronger throughout is because the dumper usually has been thinking about the breakup for a while and in many ways has grieved for the loss of the love, whereas you are only starting you're grieving process. My ex is a lot like yours, as was the tearful breakup and the unsure feelings on her part. One minute she loves me, the next she is cold! I'm not saying your ex will be like this but prepare yourself because these mixed messages can be tough to deal with. I wish you all the best and will you do me a favour? Let me and the other posters know if it works out for you. Would be nice to see a wee success story on here The breakup was actually mutual at the time, we both said we loved each other so so much, but that maybe this was for the best. It wasn't until afterwards i realised that i still wanted her. We're still in touch, and she's still coming up tomorrow for our chat and film night. Last night, she was out with a few mates, text me at about 3am asking if i was still up, it woke me but i said i was, so the text convo started, she was going on about how her friends boyfriend was obviously "keen on a threesome..." if you catch my drift, dancing with his partner and my ex and so on, but she said when things got a little too frisky she left to go to the bathroom... also going on about how nice his friends were. I mean, confusing signals much!? But yeh, i will definitely come back and update everyone on here after the get together!
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