purplepanda Posted September 22, 2011 Posted September 22, 2011 Okay, so last year, from December to February, I had a friend with benefits. I actually really liked him, and then fell in love with him. He didn't end up treating me the best, not the worst, but not the best. Anyways. We've barely spoken since then. He lives 40 miles away, and he knew I wanted to be with him. But he had a facebook friend of 3 years, and he'd never met her, but was "in love" with her. He'd commit to a girl 2,000 miles away, but not to me. That's why I broke off all contact. That really hurt. I probably should've just told him I liked him in the first place, and not have slept with him. :/ We've recently started catching up, JUST as friends. I told him I was celebate up front (hint hint) and he said "That's great! I'm so proud of you", and he's not seeing anyone. He said we should grab dinner and catch up face to face, and I said sure, sometime in the next month or so (really busy). He moved to Washington to be with this girl (the facebook friend) over the summer and apparently it didn't turn out so well. She was controlling and abusive and said mean things like "I'd rather go to work than stay home cause at least I get paid for feeling like ****". He spent 2 months there, and came home. He said, "I gotta hand it to her. I never thought I'd get my heart broken twice." Then we talked about some pretty personal problems. Well yesterday I texted him, and I hadn't in a few days, and said Hey, to which he replied, "Hey sexy :)". I said, "You know it's (my name) right?" "Yes I know silly". What the hell????????????????????????? I've started to fantasize about what it'd be like to date him, but I think those are just fantasies. He asked me if we could go out to eat this weekend. I know it's not much to go off of, but could this mean something?
Andy_K Posted September 22, 2011 Posted September 22, 2011 Seriously? You need someone to tell you what it means when a guy you used to have sex with calls you sexy? It means he'd like to have sex with you again. He may or may not want to 'date' or get into a relationship (more than likely not).
Untouchable_Fire Posted September 22, 2011 Posted September 22, 2011 \ I've started to fantasize about what it'd be like to date him, but I think those are just fantasies. He asked me if we could go out to eat this weekend. I know it's not much to go off of, but could this mean something? Are you serious? He called you sexy and you start falling in love? If you think ****Buddy situations ever work out for the positive you are completely crazy.
whichwayisup Posted September 22, 2011 Posted September 22, 2011 He said, "I gotta hand it to her. I never thought I'd get my heart broken twice." Then we talked about some pretty personal problems So, he was in love with this girl, moved to be with her, it didn't work out, he got his heartbroken. Now, he's flirting with you. ??? Red flag. He isn't looking to fall in love with you, have a relationship. He's buttering you up for some casual sex, that's all. He didn't treat you too well last time.. Don't do it with him. You have feelings for him and you're going to be hurt if you have sex with him again.
Cee Posted September 22, 2011 Posted September 22, 2011 This guy is so transparent and worthless. He feels entitled to have sex with you because he's gotten it before and knows you like him. You deserve better than this guy. Instead of having dinner with him, go out with your girlfriends or do something nice for yourself. A good way to stop liking this guy is to remember how he used you and then went after that woman who was 2,000 miles away. And instead of treating you carefully because he knows he hurt you, he's like "hey sexy, let's hang out." Lose this guy.
Mme. Chaucer Posted September 22, 2011 Posted September 22, 2011 Please, please, please don't go there ...
Ruby Slippers Posted September 22, 2011 Posted September 22, 2011 So, he was in love with this girl, moved to be with her, it didn't work out, he got his heartbroken. Now, he's flirting with you. ??? Red flag. He isn't looking to fall in love with you, have a relationship. He's buttering you up for some casual sex, that's all. He didn't treat you too well last time.. Don't do it with him. You have feelings for him and you're going to be hurt if you have sex with him again. Agreed. Buck up your self-respect and tell this a-hole to go piss in a gutter.
yessy21 Posted September 22, 2011 Posted September 22, 2011 Once you step a foot out that door... dont ever go back. I thought you learned from that mistake?
Author purplepanda Posted September 23, 2011 Author Posted September 23, 2011 Seriously? You need someone to tell you what it means when a guy you used to have sex with calls you sexy? It means he'd like to have sex with you again. He may or may not want to 'date' or get into a relationship (more than likely not). I was just wondering. I told him I wasn't going to date anyone for awhile.
Author purplepanda Posted September 23, 2011 Author Posted September 23, 2011 Are you serious? He called you sexy and you start falling in love? If you think ****Buddy situations ever work out for the positive you are completely crazy. Dude! I'm not falling in love!! I was just curious.
Author purplepanda Posted September 23, 2011 Author Posted September 23, 2011 Once you step a foot out that door... dont ever go back. I thought you learned from that mistake? I wouldn't have sex with him!!! D: I HAVE learned from that mistake. It was just going to be friendly, and I made sure to tell him that. I was going to cancel anyways...
Author purplepanda Posted September 23, 2011 Author Posted September 23, 2011 Cee and whichwayisup: Thank you for that. I was sort of hoping that he'd look back on 6 months ago, when I told him that she wouldn't be what he thought, she could be crazy, etc. I'd forgotten how badly that hurt until you two reminded me. :/ Mme. Chaucer and Ruby Slippers: thank you for your advice. I'm not going to try to go there. I was going to go to dinner REALLY to catch up, and leave it at that. (I was planning on going to my favorite restaraunt where he lives, and he asked if he could join me. That's how it started.) Thank you everyone. Another guy problem solved!! Until next time....
Cee Posted September 23, 2011 Posted September 23, 2011 Hooray for you purplepanda! Have a happy and jerk free weekend!
karaoke Posted September 23, 2011 Posted September 23, 2011 yeah, you deserve better than this guy. he used you. temptation can be strong but you can be strong too!!
Author purplepanda Posted September 25, 2011 Author Posted September 25, 2011 Hooray for you purplepanda! Have a happy and jerk free weekend! I'll try lol. XD
Pierre Posted September 25, 2011 Posted September 25, 2011 Okay, so last year, from December to February, I had a friend with benefits. I actually really liked him, and then fell in love with him. He didn't end up treating me the best, not the worst, but not the best. Well yesterday I texted him, and I hadn't in a few days, and said Hey, to which he replied, "Hey sexy :)". I said, "You know it's (my name) right?" "Yes I know silly". What the hell????????????????????????? I've started to fantasize about what it'd be like to date him, but I think those are just fantasies. He asked me if we could go out to eat this weekend. I know it's not much to go off of, but could this mean something? Wow! He was having sex with you so at some level he probably thinks you have some sexual value and hence the term sexy. Why are you so starved for external validation? A guy says "hey sexy" and you are bent out of shape? This guy must think you are the easiest woman in the planet and that you will always be there to give him sex on demand. Yeah, just say "hey sexy".
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